Bridesmaids

You should ask the 2 people to be in the wedding and don't demote anyone. It's more common than you think to have uneven sides. And I think it's fine to have 10 bridesmaids.

I agree with previous poster, don’t demote anyone. It’s fine to have uneven sides, and actually pretty common.

Agree with both PPs above me. Demoting is a friendship-ending move. You don't have to have even numbers

No, it’s not the only resolution to demote two girls. I’ve been in more weddings with uneven bridal party members than even sides. If you truly want all 10 girls by your side, ask those two others.

View Quoted Comment Thank you for the input! I’m struggling because 2 of the 8 I already asked are newer friends, only been friends for about 10 months. I thought they were my people, but lately have been feeling excluded from our group and just questioning a lot.

Highly suggest not demoting anyone, unless you don’t mind destroying those friendships. There is absolutely no rule that sides needs to be even and no reason to demote anyone.

I was in this same boat and I got to a point that I didn’t even want to be friends with a few people anymore (long stories) but I cut them from my wedding and asked the other 2 I really did want. I’m happy now and I haven’t looked back! It’s definitely a friendship ending think to cut people if you’ve already asked and by the sound of it y’all might even be heading down the path where they are getting more distant and maybe that will be a good thing in the long run! You don’t want to force anyone to be apart of your wedding and if they keep distancing themselves then good riddance! You should be surrounded by people who would do anything to be there next to you and with you on your special day! Maybe just see what happens over time with the ones you want to cut because they may just “cut themselves” by being so distant. And if you want to add more people then do it! My fiancé has less people and it’s way more common than you think! Be with who you want to be with!

Chances are very great that with at 8 bridesmaids, 1 or 2 will drop out in the next 8 months. Do not drop anyone, and do not ask anyone more. .... The best time to as BM is 8-11 months, so BM do not have pregnancies, move for school or jobs, and other issues, and so neither of you gets tired of the other by a year 🙁🤨 and still have to carry on.

Demoting a bridesmaid is likely a friendship ending move.

Wedding parties do not need to be even. You can have 8 bridesmaids while your husband has 6 groomsmen. You can also have 10 bridesmaids if you want (although I would only recommend having that many if you are having a larger wedding, like 200 people or more).

Demoting/eliminating anyone is very much a friendship ending move. A "friend" did that to me in 1994 - yes I am 56 - and she said at the time she was moving. We are cleaning out our house and I came across a note she mailed in 2011 or something saying she was not confident in her weight (she was not heavy) so.....she dropped out AND lied. Had she told me I would have understood. She left a message on my answering machine (again, 1994) and I never called her back, nothing.

Let this be a cautionary tale to NOT ask people a year or so out. And this is reason number 47 why when I remarried I had my two sons stand with me. I was NOT going to have any more than one female, lol.

View Quoted Comment Thank you for your advice and input, it’s so nice to hear someone else has been in this boat. I think I will just wait it out and see how the next few months go before making any rash decisions!

View Quoted Comment Good idea! I was forced to wait because of covid postponing my wedding and the more time that passed the more I realized what what right for me! I’m sure everything will work out for you in the end no matter what happens! Good luck with everything!

Do not demote any one. I once way unasked to be a bridesmaid because she needed the two sides to match and this other girl “wanted it more” as the bride explained. It really hurt and she never acknowledged what she did was wrong. It completely destroyed our friendship and I lost a really good friend.