Bridesmaids

I think it's rude to add someone to your wedding party as an afterthought. It's clear that they weren't your first choice since you're so close to the wedding. It's also super rude to "promote" an usher to groomsmen just to reach a number.

Yea, I agree with Caytlyn, I don’t think it’s appropriate to add on bridesmaids after you’ve already asked your friends to be in the party. You’re pretty close to the wedding date, so it’s obvious they weren’t included when you originally asked your bridesmaids. I get that you’ve recently grown closer, but I think it’s best to just leave it alone at this point.

I wouldn't add anyone else. Not only is it rude, but that gives them very little time to get a dress or save money if they help with a bridal shower or attend a bachelorette party. I would just keep them as guests.

I am going to disagree with the previous posters. Why? Because I was asked to be a bridesmaid late. The reason is that I became good friends with one of my friends to this day through crossfit and she asked me to be a bridesmaid. Granted it was not 90 days out but I felt special because that showed how close we were. I did not find it rude at all. Friendships can happen at anytime. Maybe I would not ask because they would have 90 days to pay for and have a dress ready and there is money involved being a bridesmaid. The grooms and bridesmaids do not have to be even as I have seen various weddings with more bridesmaids than others. I do not feel you would be rude by asking but I think it would not work due to the fact they would have limited time to afford a dress, hair and make up etc...

I think it would be very complicated and a bit rude to add them so last minute. They already know they aren’t bridesmaids and clearly it isn’t bothering them that they weren’t included. You can still invite them to your bachelorette or to get ready with you in the morning or something if you’d like!

Okay thanks everyone! I’m not trying to be rude that’s why I asked for advice. Though I do want to say this - the girls are okay coming to the bachelorette party. I assume they know they will have to pay their way. They looked bummed when I said I had 4 bridesmaids and it ended at that. I initially reached out to them to hangout because it had been so long. We decided, collectively, to start hanging out more often. My bridesmaids’ dresses are only $60...I could always help if needed be. My other bridesmaids are doing their own hair and makeup...I’m paying for everything else. I’m even chipping in (for my mom who’s on disability) $$ towards my bridal shower so there’s not too much stress on my bridesmaids. I just got excited that the trio was back together again that’s why I thought it might be nice to include them. In regards to ‘promoting’ two ushers...these are two guys my fiancé originally wanted to have as groomsmen, but didn’t because of the group being uneven. Try telling a stubborn man, who can be a groomzilla at times, that it’s okay to be uneven...lol!

I started off with four bridesmaids too. Then I got a call from two of my former coworkers whom I grew very close to, saying how hurt they were that I didn’t choose them since we are close. I told them guess what? I now dub thee bridesmaids. A couple weeks later I added three more friends. My fiancé complained a little but on the beginning he has more groomsmen (6) than I had bridesmaids so it kind of worked out. I never imagined having such a large bridal party but in some matters you just have to follow your heart.

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Personally, I think it will be extra stress on your end. It may also offend the 2 girls that weren’t previously bridesmaids or the 4 girls you have already chosen.

I think that’s kind of late to add them

I think just leave it as is. It would be asking a lot of them to try and get all they need for the wedding day, especially since being in someone’s wedding can get expensive.

I think that is a little weird (and possibly rude). I think you can find other ways to include them without making them bridesmaids. You can ask them to come up and get ready with you day of, invite them to showers and bachorlette party, etc.

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I can’t believe how sensitive women are on these matters !

If I’m asked to be bridesmaid last minute , who cares ? I mean honestly I would just HOPE they don’t o it out of guilt or pity but because they REALLY thought about it .
Too bad if they feelOffended by not being invited before but you can explain yourself why you didn’t think about it and then when you all spent time together you realized you wanted to have them join you. Follow your heart and as long as your truly honest with them , AND if they are close friends , they WILL understand.
Also who cares if you are uneven.I hope your fiancé doesn’t because , it’s just looks (symmetry) . Who cares if it’s not “even” for the picture ? The people that will judge your pictures in the future care ? Or do you care ?
Just throwing some of my own thoughts