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Samantha
Just Said Yes August 2020

Bridesmaids

Samantha, on February 13, 2020 at 6:25 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 7
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I have a bridesmaid in my wedding who also happens to be a family member. I am debating on whether or not she should still be a part of my big day. All of my bridesmaids and I went dress shopping together and I allowed each girl to pick out the dress that the wanted in the colors I had chosen. This girl canceled her dress order from the original shop to buy a used dress off an app. I told her as long as it was the same brand and color I didn’t have a problem with her budgeting. So she got the dress and then wore it to another event about a week ago. I was already a little upset that she would wear it before the wedding but then I saw photos of her in the dress online and realized the color looked very dark. I asked her about what she ordered and she told me and it’s not the same color as the other dresses. So now she’s telling me she has already paid for a dress and doesnt think she should have to get another one and should just be aloud to wear that. How would you respond?

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Latest activity by Tara, on February 14, 2020 at 11:17 AM
  • Keri
    Expert November 2019
    Keri ·
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    Is the dress still in good condition? Is the color close to your color palate? Unless she would be the only one in a noticeably different color out of several people I would just let it go. Probably not worth the fight/damaging the relationship.


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  • Kristen
    Master November 2020
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    Eh you can't fully control what she wears if she paid. Be horribly upset and annoyed but would validate that as a reason to cut her. Out of spite put her at the back of the line 😛
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  • Samantha
    Just Said Yes August 2020
    Samantha ·
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    The dress is in the same color pallet but worried she’ll stand out because the dresses we chose we everything other girl in a dark/ light color dress and hers is significantly darker.
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  • Suzie
    Super October 2021
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    It was her decision to buy a different dress, without consulting you first. Sounds like it does NOT match the BM color, so you have every right to be upset. She needs to get the dress color YOU chose, which she agreed to do with being in the wedding. I can’t believe she did that, and then had the nerve to wear it elsewhere! Who does that?! I think you’re completely in the right to say, it was your choice to get a different dress, and it doesn’t match. Please get the correct dress that was agreed upon. If she refuses, then tell her you’re assuming she will no longer be in the bridal party. I guarantee she will wear that dress anyway as a guest.... Smiley atonished

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  • Julia
    Dedicated October 2020
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    Every wedding I’ve been in I have worn what the bride asked regardless of my opinions. I know many will disagree but I feel like once you accept the request to be in a wedding you have to do what the bride wants (within reason). She needs to buy the correct dress or dismiss herself, she had no right to go buy what she wanted and expect you to accept it.
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  • Mandee
    Devoted September 2020
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    I would tell her that when she agreed to be in the wedding she agreed to wear the dress and color that you as the bride chose! I would lose my crap if a BM picked a different dress IN A DIFFERENT COLOR than what was agreed on!!

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  • Tara
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    I 100% agree with this. It's your wedding/your choice, and you shouldn't feel even a littleee bit bad for speaking up.

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