Bridesmaid/seating Drama

If every other wedding party member gets to have their SO at the table with him, he should too. I think the only way to prevent her from sitting with you at your table is to do a sweet heart table and have the bridal party and their SO’s at a separate table.

If your other bridal party members have +ones that will be sitting at the table that aren’t in the wedding party, then I think it would be more awkward if she wasn’t allowed to sit with her SO. Do you even know if the groomsmen would want to go at that point?

View Quoted Comment The groomsman will be there! It’s all been talked about and the guys are totally fine and he says he wouldn’t miss it either way!

I wouldn't dwell too much on it honestly. Yes she isn't in your bridal party anymore, but she's still the SO of a groomsman, so if you to the long tables then you'll have to be okay with her sitting there. You could always just sit them a little farther down from you. If he isn't the best man, then there isn't really a reason for him to sit RIGHT beside you and your FH.

Sit them farther down from you both. That way you still have the table seating style you're wanting, but you also avoid any possible close interaction with you both while eating. Besides eating, this should be the only time that you 'have' to be near one another, so I think it'll be fine.

View Quoted Comment At the end of the day, it is your wedding day and you need to do what you feel is best, but I do find it hard to believe that the groomsmen is going to be OK with his SO sitting in a different table when everyone else gets to have their SO at their table, and that the ex bridesmaid will be OK with this. If you truly don’t like her enough to not sit her with her SO, why bother even inviting her at all if the groomsmen is so supportive?

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The groomsman and my fiancé have talked and he has basically said mine and the bridesmaids issues won't effect him being there. They know nothing about a seating chart or tables at this point so he isn't necessarily okay with any seating issue, this was more for me when creating a seating chart! Thanks for the advice!

I’d just sit them the furthest away from you. Otherwise you’d cause even more drama in your wedding party. Take the high road and hope she’ll follow.

I agree with others to just sit them farther down the line. Also, your wedding isn't until September. I'm assuming this spat happened fairly recently, so the feelings are still very fresh. Most likely, you won't feel as strongly as you do now by the time the wedding rolls around.

I would just seat them further away from you. Someone is gonna have to be at the end of the table anyway. She won't look like she is in the wedding party if she isn't in a BM dress, so I wouldn't worry about her sitting their. It would be weirder for her not to sit with her SO. Hopefully she plans to be civil if she is still coming to the wedding, otherwise she should just stay home and let her SO go alone.

While awkward, I wouldn’t break etiquette to not invite her, just seat them far away from you and it won’t matter. As strange as it may be for you, it will be so much worse for her to spend the day celebrating a former friend, and sitting with everyone else who knows she dropped out of the wedding party!