Hi all!
I've been engaged for about 15 months and asked my bridesmaids about 13 months ago to be in the wedding. I have tried to give plenty of notice for events and costs associated with being a bridesmaid.
I've also selected to forgo some events in order to be considerate of everyone's time/money. Like I am skipping the bridal shower and combining my bach weekend with my 30th birthday celebration, plus staying local.
The problem I'm having is we are 2 months from the bach celebration and my MOH has asked people for payments towards the bach weekend for the house we're all staying in. She gave them 3 plus months notice, yet I have 2 BM’s who have not made payments and they also happen to be my future sister in laws. My MOH reaches out and they ignore her. So I finally had to get involved and ask them if they were even interested in being a part of it since they are not even responding, or interacting with the other BM’s in the group plan message group.
they said it was rude for me to question their interest and that they don’t have money.
I’m frustrated bc I don’t know how it’s rude to question their interest when they are unresponsive plus there was plenty of notice given, so I feel like when you say yes to being a BM you are also committing to the financial responsibility that comes with it.
They are making me feel like a bad guy and playing hard on the story of “I’m broke”... but the Bach is in 2 months and the wedding is in 3 months so the financial responsibility is going to change so idk what they expect to do.
Thoughts/advice?
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