Bridesman

Hi Everyone, I feeling really down about asking my brother to be a bridesman at our wedding. I know that sides don’t have to be even, but I want them to be. My fiancé has three groomsmen and I had two bridesmaids. I wanted my brother to be a groomsman, but then we would have had 4 and 2. I thought about having him as a bridesman instead. It would mean more to me anyways as he close to me and should be on my side (screw gender norms, right?). Anyways, I asked my mom if she thought he would be offended if I asked him. She said no, but she didn’t like the idea. I talked her into it, and told her it would be up to my brother anyways. I asked him and he seemed happy about it. I said if he would rather be on the grooms side, I would make it happen, but he was happy to be on the brides side.


Fast forward to now. I didn’t realize that my father didn’t know. We were all sitting together as a family, and my mom brought up a friend of hers who’s son was just a bridesman in his sisters wedding. This makes her feel good and like it’s normal to have a bridesman or something. My dad scoffs and says that weird and ridiculous and what about traditions, and on and on. I stopped him and said before you dig any deeper my brother is going to be a bridesman at our wedding. He quickly stopped complaining, but I feel really bad about putting my brother in the situation. I hope he can enjoy himself and not be self conscious. Why can’t people just be open minded?