Bridesmen instead of Bridesmaids?

I have a 'bridesdude,' and yes, it confuses some people (mainly older family members on my FH's side. However, my bridesdude is an official brother to me, and doesn't know my FH that well. So, of course he'd be on my side.

The only tricky thing is bridal events. If he wants to be involved, and you want a more traditional 'female-oriented event' things can get awkward. If; however, you want to embrace a co-ed event, that will work wonderfully!

Your bridal party, your choice. I don't see anything wrong with having bridesmen instead of bridesmaids, if that is what you want. You should have the people that mean the most to you up there beside you. Trust me on this! I chose bridesmaids that I didn't necessarily want to appease family expectations, and I wish I hadn't.

Your attendants should be your nearest and dearest friends, their gender doesn’t matter, and neither does their sexuality.

I have bridesmen! Two of my closest friends are guys and I wanted them by my side. On the flip side my FH has two groomsgals. At the end of the day we both have mixed gender friend groups and wanted our top people by ourside

I think it's a great idea! My sibling is transgender (female going male) and I am asking him to be my 'man of honor'. My FH said he's unsure how to explain it to his family, however I told him by then I don't see why there would be need for explanation, I don't think they would be able to tell much of a difference.

Getting creative is great and incorporating those close to you is important, it's your wedding, do what you want and try not to worry too much what others think.

I have a bridesman and I haven’t had any complaints

I have my brother and male best friend as my bridesmen. There is nothing wrong with it. The point of the bridal party is to have your nearest and dearest stand by your side so I don't personally think the gender of those people matters as much as the relationship you have with them. My grandma is confused by it but back when she got married, the priest chose and approved your bridal party. I'm not religious in any way so there are a lot of things about my wedding she's having a hard time understanding but she is still supportive of me! I wouldn't worry about what others think and have the people who mean the most to you in your bridal party.

One of my friends had a “bridesman” and a bridesmaid and her husband has a bridesmaid and a groomsmen. Both of them had best friends of the opposite sex so for them it made sense to have them. Also, they had a Catholic wedding and although some people may have thought it strange I don’t think there’s anything wrong or unusual about it.

Honestly, if it weren’t for the fact that FH and I have so many mutual friends and he was asking our guy friends to stand up with him, my best guy friend would definitely have been on my side. I see absolutely nothing wrong with this! People can judge if they want. It’s about having the people that love and support you by your side on the big day.

I have a bridesman, and FH has a groomswoman. It's 2019, people can handle it. (If they can't, it's not your problem, it's theirs!)

You ask whomever is close to you, and no one else gets a say.