Bridezilla moment anyone???

I had a couple....

My venue tried to tell me they were legally required to give all the guests and wedding party (including the B & G), neon plastic wristbands to drink. Since I am also a professional in the industry, I know this is not true for our state. I politely stated that this was not, in fact, a law, and i had a copy of the liquor laws and city ordinances regarding alcohol to prove it. The coordinator got belligerent and said it was non-negotiable. I got up, started to walk out, and said that we’d simply go to XYZ venue, because they didn’t require neon wristbands. We went back and forth a bit, and I lost my temper and said, “look, I get why this would be necessary for some people, but we are having an adult-only wedding, and the entire wedding party is over the age of 35. This is a classy event, NOT A COUNTY FAIR. If I wanted it to look like a county fair, I’d GO THERE for $250, instead of the $3000 I’m trying to spend here!!! WRISTBANDS ARE TACKY!”

She was PISSED at me, but we did not have wristbands. I can’t believe all the people who fall for the “legal” bs she feeds them. That is not the law!!

I also got upset when my 14-year-old niece walked into the reception in a strapless micro-romper that I’m convinced she stole from the flower girl it was so small, because the gorgeous Vera Wang shift dress we bought for her “was uncomfortable.” She looked like a 25-year-old going to Coachella....not to mention it was freezing outside, and she traded her age appropriate wedges for 5-inch platform heels. She looked like a hooker!! I made her change. Her mom and mine thanked me. Anyone else and I wouldn’t have cared, but she was at the head table and only 14, so yeah....She glared at me for like 30 minutes lol. #sorrynotsorry

View Quoted Comment Agree!!!!!

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You must have serious patience, because that is a LOT to handle. Major kudos!!

No bridezilla moment yet, but still have 6 months to go. It's not my style, but man weddings can be stressful! I did have an extremely disappointing wedding dress shopping experience due to the shop completely botching my appointment. I had gone previously to check them out and was really excited and it just failed. (wrong consultant, surly replacement, dirty room, the list goes on) I did buy my dress and love it, but barely tried any one because the consultant couldn't be bothered. It is a small, woman-owned local business that I really wanted to support. I wrote the owner (who was there that day and part of the problem) a long email explaining my disappointment, instead of flipping out. I plan on going there for alterations and didn't want to ruin the relationship but really wanted her to know how a customer experience was because it's an opportunity to improve. She wrote a nice email back and took responsibility for the things that went wrong. I'm glad I took the time to voice my concerns constructively and not in the moment.

That's IS family style. Family style just means one big fish for multiple people, doesn't mean they all come out at once. Ask anyone in the food industry.

View Quoted Comment You do know wearing white was for England's royals to stay current-a PR stunt as the first wedding covered by their news. The queen wore white to stand out for the photographers.

I disagree it's rude to wear white. It's just a color, no one will mistake the person for the bride.

I don’t think I’ve had a bride-dolls moment yet. My sister tried telling me I am one.. but we have a very Unhealthy relationship, so I’m not reading too much into that. FH would have said something if I did.m have a moment like this

View Quoted Comment Amen! "It's not the planning, it's the executing."

View Quoted Comment That’s fine you disagree. Honestly I wish didn’t feel the way but that is my one pet peeve that I can’t help. I know not all brides wear white. I really wanted to wear a black dress originally but since I never wear white I opted to go that route. I thought the tradition actually started before photographs though with Queen Victoria?


I ’m a pretty open minded person and most etiquette things don’t bother me. I am not bothered by honey funds, money dances, dry weddings, and a lot of other things many consider huge no nos. I think times change and rules change as well. None of those bother me but the white dress to someone else’s wedding (unless guests are asked to wear white or their bridesmaids are) is still thoughtless. I’m openly admitting that’s my big bridezilla move and thought.

I should add I think I’ve developed this thought because I know a girl who purposely does this. Like very knowingly does it knowing that it would hurt the bride’s feelings. Maybe that’s why I feel that way.

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Omgooooosh. That wasn't clearly explained initially and my bad for misunderstanding. Thanks for sharing!

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ROFL! I totally get it. Who wants this??? Ruined wedding photos

Even for our small wedding (15 people), several guests love their pro-grade cameras so we asked everyone by phone or e-mail please don't use cameras during ceremony/reception cocktail hour--we really want you to enjoy our wedding and for our photographer to get photos of you enjoying it. Reception was open to paparazzi! Great wedding experience & photos. We forgot to tell one guest and during our reception speech, she blocked guests' view and our photographer's, to snap photos with her iPad right in front of us! None of which came out anyway.

Will you put "unplugged ceremony" in invites and/or ceremony site???

I'm still 4 months out, but I asked one of my BMs if I've come across like a bridezilla to her and she said no lol, hopefully I don't have one!

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Neon plastic wristbands? Really??? Well done!

Omg. Way to go, auntie. Not appropriate. Wish her mom said something but good thing you're family.

Not yet, but almost twice.

I had settled on a venue in tuscany, and after we politely asked if they have any flexibility on the per person rate for food as they were charging 40% more than the other vendors I talked to, I never heard back from her. She told me no problem let me figure it out and get back to you. I did not hear from her for a week from date she said she would get back to me. Sent her email and we confirmed a date to talk, she canceled last minute, and that was the last I heard from her. No email response, answer to calls, and as we used whatsapp I saw that she saw my message and ignored it. Probably found someone else that was willing to pay more, and didnt want to tell me eventhough I had the date reserved. I thought about escalating to mgmt, but decided I didnt want to have anything to do with a venue that treated their clients like that.
Another venue took weeks to respond to me about booking a date, I had to call between the hours of 2am-7am to get a hold of someone for a week as no one responded to my follow up emails to book the place. I also had a mishap where they quoted me one price and tried to sneak in a higher price on the contract. I followed up; they said they would send new contract with correction. Three weeks past after follow up emails went unanswered, finally called and someone else tried to get me to pay the higher price they decided to change to and was snippy with me. As I have everything in writing and had confirmed pricing multiple times already it was handled. They still are terrible at responding and have an attitude sometimes now that I already paid a deposit. My coordinator is nice although not responsive, but I am not stressing too much.

View Quoted Comment Yes, Queen Victoria's was the first Royal PR stunt to stay current, she wore white to be easily spotted by the cameras and by the people.

I guess you would call them bridezilla moments, but never directly towards a vendor. Just a moment of freak out with FH, but never AT him.

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Totally get your frustration. Really well handled I think!

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Wow, you're a cool cucumber. Not sure I could be so patient with a bait & switch or poor customer service. Very smart of you to get stuff in writing. We had two separate events and at each venue, there were MULTIPLE changes of staff members (at one venue we lost our coordinator two weeks before our reception, then the replacement coordinator a few days before! The venue executive stepped in and went beyond, we were lucky but stressed and glad we had everything promised to us in writing). I really hope the venue works out wonderfully for you!