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Bridezilla Sister- In Law rant

Mw, on December 26, 2019 at 1:03 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 7

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My fiancé’s younger sister is getting married a month after us, we have a decent relationship and we are both in each others weddings. HOWEVER. She is being a complete bridezilla on multiple levels.

She initially asked our oldest sister in law to be MOH since they have been really close for about 9 years. She chose her, over her best friend and said the reasoning was her friend would not be as helpful planning. Ok. No big deal it’s her wedding! A few months later she sent this same sister in law a text DEMOTING her from MOH to bridesmaid because she could not attend a few planning events due to being high risk pregnant and being an hour away... I was upset at this decision but moved on since. We had all assumed she had asked her best friend to be MOH instead, since she was always supposed to have the role since they were younger. Well I just found out she had asked our other sister in law to be MOH instead! She is 3 months pregnant and 3 hours away, but because she is a wedding planner she fits the bill better for her agenda. She is treating these girls like they are interviewing for a job!!
I’m beyond upset at the drama she is creating in our family and I am not even sure I want to take part anymore if I can be cut out for not doing a good enough job.

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Latest activity by Molly, on December 26, 2019 at 2:28 PM

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Sierra · on December 26, 2019 at 1:08 PM
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Oof. That is an unfortunate thing to watch from the sidelines. And it seems like that's all you can do - watch from the sidelines. There is nothing wrong with gracefully bowing out of being a bridesmaid at this point, but keep in mind that she may not take it well and she's going to be your SIL forever. Some bitter pills are worth swallowing to ward off the sickness (or some more eloquent phrase). Has she indicated whether you are expected to have planning duties or just show up in the outfit?
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Kristen · on December 26, 2019 at 1:27 PM
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I agree with the previous person. At the end of the day some bride really get consumed by their day and they start to really become irrational. Sally for Hershey's ultimately going to ruin her personal relationships. I would not be surprised if that former maid of honor decides that she doesn't want to be a bridesmaid and I'm pretty sure that after that they will not be close anymore. You could gracefully bow down but as the previous poster said she won't take that well and that is going to cause an issue between you. I would just say do as you been doing and if she starts to become very bridezilla on you will then ultimately that is her ruining the relationship between you too and not you. Don't say anything just come here and bent or go to your really good friends and vent about how she's acting but also definitely take a note 4 how she's being a make sure that you don't become that way either.
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Mw · on December 26, 2019 at 1:28 PM
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To my understanding, she had never laid out any expectations for any of us. She will randomly plan these events for flowers or dresses or just plain social events, last minute. We live close so unless I have other plans I can usually attend, and I usually don’t mind going. But I don’t like the pressure of having to be the perfect bridesmaid or get booted.
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Sierra · on December 26, 2019 at 1:32 PM
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It is hard to live up to expectations especially when you don't know what those expectations are! That's a very nebulous standard to begin with. Good luck and let us know how it goes!
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Kristen · on December 26, 2019 at 1:34 PM
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Many brides feel that the bridal party is supposed to be wedding planners, support system, etc... She's just being unreasonable.
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Veronica · on December 26, 2019 at 2:05 PM
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That's ridiculous. She shouldn't be treating anyone this way. My sister-in-law had a miscarriage right before my bachelorette and there was no way I expected her to attend. She was so sick and could barely see straight. She tried telling me she was attending and I told her no she needed to stay home and get better. Some people are crazy and your future sister-in-law sounds like she is. She is definitely expecting too much. I asked my bridesmaids to go bridesmaids dress shopping with me and it was planned like a month in advance and I planned it around my girls' schedules. She definitely shouldn't get upset if she plans something and doesn't tell anyone until last minute.
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