Bridezilla?

I had neither. It never occurred to me to even want an engagement party. A bachelorette would have been nice, but it was unrealistic with everyone being out of town and arriving the day before the wedding.

I’m doing a bachelorette and a bridal shower? The only reason we didn’t do an engagement on top of that is because we did a steak house dinner for just my very imitate family instead. It’s typical to do both for sure!

I don’t think engagement parties are as popular anymore as a bridal shower and bachelorette

We did not do an engagement party. We will be doing a bridal shower and bachelorette.

I had both but I planned my engagement party all my own. My girls planned my bachelorette party which was a surprise for me. Then my girls and mom planned my bridal shower. For bridal shower it was the only one I asked my mom to do because I know how picky I am and how much I get stress so I refuse to plan it. I said I wouldn’t have one if it mean me having to plan it.

I don't think it matters what you want, it's the attitude behind it. If you're freaking out, dramatically crying, having a meltdown, or throwing a fit, then yes, you're a bridezilla. If you just explained it to her or express what you wanted, then you're not

No, not everyone does both. This is just my best guess (from being on these boards for about 9 months) but I’d say half (or less) of all couples have an engagement party. We didn’t. I will be having 2 bridal showers (one in my home state and one where I live now) and a bachelorette party.

I only had an engagement party cause my mom was really excited and wanted to throw one for us. The only other thing I might have is the bachelorette. If it's just something you're expressing that you want then no, it doesn't make you a bridezilla. If you're throwing a fit and being a baby over it then yes, it does.

Didnt have an engagement party. Just went to our favorite restaurant with FH the day he proposed to celebrate. My mom hosted a bridal shower and my Matron of Honor and Maid of Honor are throwing me a bachelorette otherwise I wouldnt have one. None of these parties are necessary. And none of them should be planned by the bride.

We didn't have an engagement party. It wasn't until the past few months that I even thought of a bridal shower. My FSIL's and FMIL are throwing me a bridal shower. My MOH and another friend planned my bachelorette party. On here the rule if no one offers then you don't have any parties. I think it is always nice and great to have at least a bachelorette and bridal

Neither is a necessity. You’re allowed to want something, but that doesn’t mean that someone else is going to offer to throw one for you. If they don’t, you don’t get one. It’s not the end of the world.

I don't think you're a bridezilla. You want what you want.
My fiance wants an engagement party... but I think we're going to just throw a housewarming instead.
I absolutely want a bachlorette. And while I dont particularly want a bridal shower, I'm getting one or two.

View Quoted Comment We talked about having one and they agreed to have one and even reserved the place, but then started asking tonight why I was having one if I was having a bachelorette.

View Quoted Comment An engagement party and a bachelorette party and completely different events.

It’s normal to want and hope for those extra celebrations. I think maybe using the word expecting makes it seem a little bridezilla. So maybe it’s the way you said it? No offense intended either. Sometimes it really just comes down to word games.

You are not a bridezilla. I always dreamt of having an engagement party, bridal party and bachelorette and ended without any of them. It hurts a bit but whatever. Don't let it bum you out. At the end of the day you get to marry the one you love.

You are not getting married till 2020 I have only had my bridal shower and I get married in September. You are still a bit early.
Do you mean bridal shower and engagement party? They are more alike, a bachelorette party is when you celebrate end of single hood. No gifts. Typically the bridesmaid do this closer to the wedding. A lot of times there is heavy drinking but not always. A shower is when the bride gets showered with gifts. A engagement party is a party to celebrate being engaged. You tend to get gifts at both the shower and engagement party. That could be why you are only having one or the other.

We had an engagement shower about a month after we got engaged, but it was something my parents asked to host. My bachelorette party will be the weekend before the wedding; my MOHs are throwing it together at an AirBnB in Dallas.

Wanting them is ok, though I don't think you should expect them. In the end, if someone offers to host these for you, great! But if not, it's not really something you can control. I wouldn't call you a bridezilla though without knowing how you are going about this. A bride who hopes for these things can drop hints to her bridal party that she'd like them, a bridezilla would be someone who is demanding these to be done without question

View Quoted Comment This sums it up really.