Bringing my baby on the honeymoon

Why not wait to do your honeymoon until your baby is a little older? Maybe 6 months from now or on your 1 year anniversary.

To me, a honeymoon should be a romantic vacation for you and your partner, not a family trip. I would either wait until the baby's a little older or take a shorter trip for just the two of you. It seems like bringing a child that young with you might also restrict the activities that you can do, so that's another factor to consider.

I have so much to say about why anyone would want to do this, but I will defer to those who have actually done this...

I also see it as a time for just the husband and wife to be together and relax. With a baby, I feel like it would not be an relaxing, and you don't really ever have alone time. I can understand if you absolutely have to bring him for various reasons, but for me, it would be a no.

I felt the same way (my daughter will be 18 months when we get married). We are just doing a little mini moon and will be taking a longer/better vacation the next year or so.

I don't have kids so maybe I'm insensitive.

But in no universe would I want to do this. I would take a very short mini-moon, which I don't feel is unreasonable at 16 months. And then when he is older, go on a longer vacation.

I think a honeymoon can be anything you want, a week, weekend, family trip whatever makes you happy. I would wait until your closer to make the call because like you said you might feel differently. You could always compromise and wait until the baby is older to do a honeymoon or maybe just do a weekend away. How does your FH feel about it?

We are taking our son too. He will be almost 4.

Take a mini moon then when the baby is older take your honeymoon.

All I can think of by the title is....

DSD will probably be there with us, BUT there are huge differences:

She is 16 (will be nearly 18 by the wedding)

We are having a DW

She will have her own hotel room next to ours.

There is no way I would invite her to come to the wedding, then send her back here to her mom's while we enjoy a long vacation without her. If she were younger though, it would be a very different situation and we probably wouldn't do the DW, or would have her go with her aunt and uncle or something.

At 16 months, even if you're breastfeeding, you can always pump for your kid before you leave and pump to keep supply up while you're gone. I wouldn't take a toddler. Infant, yes. Toddler, no.

If I had a young baby I wouldn't want to leave them either for any length of time. Why not take a honeymoon when baby is older? Our kids are older now but because I don't like being apart for too long, we are taking a mini moon and then doing a long family vacation later in the year.

@Star - One of my favorite movies! I love that meme!

I don't have children so I may be in the wrong, but I wouldn't want to bring children on my honeymoon. I would wait until the child is older and you feel more comfortable leaving the child behind and not breastfeeding. If the honeymoon is already booked though then I would play it by ear. If you're breastfeeding then yes bring the child but if you're not I wouldn't. It'll be probably the one time you get complete alone time with hubby since you two do have children

We love kids and we want a bunch, but definitely not on our honeymoon! If you really don't feel comfortable leaving your son at that age, then I would agree with the others ^^^ and say postpone your honeymoon until you can go with just your hubby.

I'm genuinely curious, do people really still breastfeed at 16 months? Don't babies have teeth by then? Can't they eat food?

If I were you, I would wait until you're a little closer to the wedding to decide. I would not want a baby on the honeymoon, and I can understand why you'd be hesitant to leave your little one at home. Personally I think I'd be comfortable leaving him or her with a parent, but if you're not then you should wait until your child is a little older and you feel okay with that.

No baby!! At that age you will be chasing him everywhere. That honeymoon should be you and your man. YOu can freeze breast milk for months.

In my opinion, a honeymoon should be about the couple--not the children. I say do a mini-moon without the child, or wait until it is older to take a full honeymoon.

@Richmond: Yes, its recommended a mother continue to breastfeed until 2, because between 12-24 months the digestive tract is more or less working on maturing to better be able to process the nutrients out of regular food.

Yes, a child can start eating table food at a relatively young age, BUT the majority of their nutrition WILL and should continue to come from breast milk or formula until at least a year, and then breast milk or cow's milk should supplement table food from a year to two.

Interesting, thanks MNA and Sarah!

I think it's hard for people who do not have kids to give their opinion. of course a honeymoon should be for husband and wife and romantic etc but that's easier said then done. my FH and I have a son who will also be 16 months when we get married and after the wedding we probably can only afford a small trip since we will have used a lot of time off and money but I'd personally rather make it a "family" trip since it would be my sons first trip too. I would feel guilty leaving him for an extended amount of time. We plan to have him stay with someone at the wedding after he gets tired and ready for bed so technically we will have the wedding night and I just think it would be fun for the three of us to do a mini trip. It's your decision I don't blame you for not wanting to leave your baby. While I plan to stop breastfeeding by then that is a hassle to pump and travel etc so like others said just wait a few months see how you feel but don't feel wrong in any way for wanting to bring your baby.