Brother and sil expecting.

Let your parents host and just assist them with the planning.

Could you and your sister just help with the planning portion if your parents are comfortable contributing financially?

Let your parents host and help them with invitations.

If your parents are offering to finance the shower just help them plan it

View Quoted Comment I would if I wasn’t planning my wedding but I’m so busy with that DIYing a lot of things.

View Quoted Comment Please read my post. I don’t have the time to do that when I’m planning my own wedding

View Quoted Comment My parents don’t know how to host - they would just pay for it. But all the logistics and coordination and menu selections and invitations would fall on my sister and I and were so busy with my wedding

I would try to get your parents connected to one of her/their friends who might be willing to help out. You could be honest with your brother and let him know under different circumstances you would love to help out, but right now it is best for your parents to get help from someone who can really put the time and energy in. They have to have a friend who would love to set it up. There is always at least one in every bunch.

How much planning really goes into a baby shower food, cake, decor and a few games and you can’t help out with that before your wedding which is 4 months away? Sounds a bit like jealousy to me.
This is your family get your sister to do it then I’m sure between the 4 of you, you could come up with something for your own brother.

You should NOT be responsible for hosting. The baby shower should be hosted and planned by the parents of either side. Unless you and your SIL are like besties, you should not be planning it. Doesn’t she have a best friend that can help?? Or an aunt or some other close family? Sheesh

Planning a baby shower isn't a huge commitment. You can either help out with some planning details or just send your parents some online resources outlining tips and tricks to planning a baby shower: there are plenty available for all types of events, just like this website exists for wedding purposes.

Edit to add: she should not be hinting at anyone to plan a shower for her, really. Hosting a shower of any kind is an entirely optional choice.

View Quoted Comment Kiki don’t act like you know me. As a bride whose DIY-ing her wedding and works in the medical field with long hours, I frankly don’t have the time to be planning another event. I have absolutely no reason to be jealous. Why would I be jealous of my brother and SIL having a baby? It’s my first niece or nephew. Also- I can’t “get” anyone to do anything. I’m not the boss of anyone. Really if you’re going to comment, say something useful

View Quoted Comment THANK YOU! That’s awesome advice. I know she has some close girl friends that aren’t in the best spot financially but with my parents monetary contributions they can help with planning. Thanks!!

View Quoted Comment Thank you Adrianna! We’re not very close. Definitely not besties but we have a decent relationship. She does have a best friend or two that I can think of that might be able to take on the planning role. She only grew up with brothers and she doesn’t have a lot of extended family. Only one aunt in Florida and no cousins. But thanks for the idea!!

View Quoted Comment My parents are foreign so they don’t understand the American baby shower tradition or how to plan these things.. makes it a bit more difficult. But thanks for the advice!

View Quoted Comment Geez the nerve of some people on here...

Honestly, we were so busy/stressed with our DIY weddings, no way I could have helped. I would would hope they’d be thrilled I would attend while planning my wedding... to lose even 1/2 day during those final months to attend a shower would have stressed me out. I wouldn’t say anything unless asked directly and would politely decline or offer to show up early to help set-up the day of but that’s all.

If your parents can afford it, help them hire a party planner. The planner handles everything. They will make the shower perfect.

View Quoted Comment Seriously!! Such an immature way to think to automatically think jealousy is the culprit

View Quoted Comment I honestly think planning a baby shower may take like 3 hours out of a day total. Finding a spot (if you are not having it at a house) and a caterer (if you are not cooking it yourself). I personally don’t like games at showers so I would skip those. The hardest thing would be just getting the addresses and invitations out. I understand diy projects take time, but I find it hard to believe you can’t take a couple hours away from a DIY project to help your parents plan a small party. I’m also doing a lot of DIY for my wedding but do not do it every single day bc that is just screaming for me to be burned out and sicker than I already am, before the wedding.