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Dedicated August 2020

Brother announced his engagement 12 days before my wedding

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Q, on August 1, 2021 at 1:42 AM

So my family let it slip that my brother and his girlfriend bought an engagement ring together and are waiting for it to come in. From my understanding they were going to wait to announce it til after my wedding. WELLL My wedding is 12 days out and my brother I guess just asked her officially and announced their engagement. I’m super excited for them but I’m upset they couldn’t wait. I feel like all of our families will be congratulating them at my wedding now. Pretty upset and I’m trying not to be. Just.. feel like my wedding is going to turn into an engagement party for my brother. Idk am I over reacting? Again I’m so happy for them but upset they couldn’t wait considering they both knew they were getting engaged and picked the ring out together.

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Q · on October 17, 2021 at 11:49 PM
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Had an amazing day and married my best friend though, so that’s what matters !
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Gabby · on October 17, 2021 at 11:57 PM
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I guess you weren't overreacting at all... He definitely planned to piggyback off of your wedding. Yikes 😬
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Jasmine S. · on October 18, 2021 at 7:10 AM
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Yeah, that is pretty crappy of him. But if the wedding was great, I'd consider that a success 🙂 Going forward, please don't try to plan your pregnancy around his wedding -- he doesn't deserve that courtesy.
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Layla · on November 12, 2021 at 10:40 AM
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You can feel however you want, that's normal! But I would try to not hold this against them, and realize that people will need something to talk about at your wedding, it might as well be his engagement. People aren't going to be talking only about you and your wedding the entire wedding, that's a lot of hours that people are socializing for
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Steph · on November 13, 2021 at 8:51 PM
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“You get one day, not an entire year” sounds callous, especially since it takes a year to carefully plan (especially now that covid has ruined everything) and all you want is to be able to share that process with your loved ones without feeling as if they have their own stuff to plan now. I totally understand your feelings on this but I also think that planning your pregnancy around your brothers wedding is a bit much. (Obviously nobody WANTS to be pregnant during a celebration 😂 but if it happens then it’s ok) your day will be special and is rapidly approaching, don’t worry about your brother I’m sure everything will be perfect on your day!
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Sherraine · on September 25, 2022 at 9:42 PM
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Absolutely not. My own brother just did the same thing. Its rude. It takes the focus off you an comes off like hes trying to make things about him
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Rosalie · on December 3, 2022 at 4:47 PM
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Your feelings on their engagement are not wrong. It can be upsetting if it feels like somebody stole your thunder, and all of the pre-wedding stress makes it worse. It would be a good idea to tell your brother about this though, it's not great to keep that jealousy bottled up.
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