Hey guys. Long story short my brother in law dropped off 6 page letters tonight in my mail box telling me and my FH that he won't be coming to the wedding and he isn't allowing my sister to come either. This sister and I have been very close throughout our lives. She gave me the courage to leave my abusive 1st husband and helped me through all that mess. We are all Christians and I have been told many times my divorce was justified and God didn't want me to be treated that way. My brother in law also told before I filed for divorce that it was the right thing to do. Fast forward to today, 2 days before my wedding and he wrote to my FH that he wants him to call off the wedding. He told me he knew I was abused and my ex was an alcoholic but if I remarry I will go to hell. He said he wants me to go back with my ex and God will heal my ex and my marriage will be "restored."
Keep in mind my ex treated me terrible, my kids terrible, and he drank every night and got wasted. He was not present in our lives and was gone for days at a time. He would empty the bank account and leave us with nothing and go drink and gamble. I aught him high on my prescription meds that he sold to his friend. He was addicted to pornography and we slept in separate bedrooms. Point blank it wasn't a marriage, it was hell.
My brother in law dead told me I needed to go back with my abuser because "God" will heal him and make him a good husband. He said that a man who takes care of us (FH) and loves and respects us, isn't good for us.
He also said he is not allowing my sister to come to my wedding because I shouldn't be allowed to ever marry another man unless it is my ex.
My brother in law KNOWS my ex beat me. He knows he EMOTIONALLY abused me. HE KNOWS and he wants me to go back.
I don't know what hurts more. That he won't let my sister come, or that my sister won't stand up for herself. Or that he wants me to go back to an abusive toxic relationship. I have been crying all night and am so emotional. I don't know why he would give us these letters only 2 days before my big day. It really sucks, guys