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Just Said Yes February 2022

Brother re-invited himself to the wedding

Freda, on February 5, 2022 at 4:18 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 6
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Long story for this but I was supposed to get married in March 2020 in Vegas. There was a family holiday already booked in before we got engaged. Once we were engaged we thought we may aswell add a wedding onto the Vegas trip to make it simple. We didn't think there would be any drama but then I found out that my mum had invited my brother to Vegas, a brother I don't speak to and haven't had a relationship with for years. I ended up calling him and stating that, sorry but we're not inviting people, we're simply getting married when we are on holiday. Even our best friends wouldn't be there. He was annoyed but nethertheless we held our stance.
We did, however, invite him to the local reception which was essentially a big party for everybody afterwards. He told me in person that he would rip up the invite if I tried to give it to him as if he wasn't invited to Vegas he wasn't going to the party. We ended it by agreeing he wouldn't come. Then covid happened.
We're now due to get married with a small group locally and a couple of months ago invited family again. We invited my brother again who shouted down the phone that he wouldn't come if his three kids weren't invited. We're doing a child free event.
Now I've just been told by my mum that my brother has now done a u turn and wants to come. He's not told me but is simply planning to turn up. I told my mum in no uncertain terms that his place is no longer available and he cannot come.
Now.. I think he's going to turn up. Very few people (other than my mum) like him. I don't want him there and invited him out of politeness. My FH doesn't like him and is ready to physically remove him if he arrives. Any advice on handling this?

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Latest activity by Samantha, on February 7, 2022 at 9:45 AM
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    VIP July 2017
    Becky ·
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    Have security at your event. Give them a guest list and anyone who is not on the list is not welcome at your event.

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  • Michelle
    Master April 2021
    Michelle ·
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    💯 agree! This is your day & apparently he will cause a lot of drama if he shows up.
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    VIP August 2021
    Michelle ·
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    Not only is Las Vegas known for romance and weddings, but they have many hireable security professionals to keep their VIPs at ease. Just inquire with your venue. Best wishes.
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    Dedicated April 2023
    Ashley ·
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    Agree with otherd and may I add: it's time to set and maintain some steong boundaries with mom. This is NOT HER wedding. Your feelings and wants, as well as your future husband's are those that matter, mom's wants don't matter at all when it comes to YOUR and YOUR FIANCÉ'S wedding.
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    Devoted June 2023
    bevbabe ·
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    I would call my brother and say he's not invited, not to show up, and that you have a list of guests you've already sent to the place you're getting married. Tell the place you're going to that someone might try to crash and to only let people in who are on the list. Give them a list of people who are set to come.

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  • Samantha
    Super May 2022
    Samantha ·
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    I would be direct with your brother. Tell him, "Im sorry but the guest list is decided and we can't have any additional people at this point. Hope to see you some other time." Take the guessing out of the equation, and you'll be less stressed.

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