Brother walking me down the aisle

I am in a very similar situation. My dad bailed on us when we were young, I was about 14, and by brother was about 6...so, I am having my brother walk me down the isle, because honestly, I think he should. And at the end of the day, anyone who gets offended should kick rocks. It's our wedding day, and if anyone wanted to be a part of our lives, they would have been. But I think in this situation, it is only fair to not only ourselves, but our brothers who have been there, to do this.

So screw making people happy. Your wedding day. Remember that! Honestly I have to have the conversation with my dad, if he does decide to show up for it, that is...and I am going to tell him...LOOK, he's been here, and he's earned this. Plussss Grandma doesn't have a say, unless shes funding the entire wedding lol. It's up to you, your FH, and honestly your brother.

Good luck woman!

View Quoted Comment Thank you! We are paying for the wedding 100% ourselves. It just sucks because my grandma will say stuff like “maybe I won’t go then” and it’s pathetic. My brother is honestly my best friend. My fiancé, my brother and I all rent a house together because we are so close. About a year ago, before I was even engaged, my father told me he wouldn’t show up if my mom did..he’s disrespectful and rude. Also, he wouldn’t even reply to my SO when he tried to talk to him about proposing to me. Then when he found out we were engaged, he texted me complaining about how he never got talked to about it. Just crappy because I feel like crap because my grandma is telling everyone that I am not thankful and stuff. My fiancé supports my decision and understand why I chose to have my brother walk me down the aisle.

View Quoted Comment && my brother is more than thankful and honored to be walking me down! ❤️

I’m having my brother give me away too, and I know my grandma and cousins will be upset about it also... I haven’t told them yet. I think it’s great that you have that relationship with your brother! You should just do what you want, and if they have an issue with it then they don’t have to come. I know it’s hard, I’m dreading the reaction I’ll receive. It’s not their wedding, they don’t have a say! I wish you the best of luck!!!!

View Quoted Comment Thank you for the advice! You try to remember the same thing, it’s your wedding not theirs. Us brides need to be happy!

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You know what, I think the most important part is the people who MATTER. And their opinions are just that, opinions, everyone is entitled. If people chose not to go to your wedding, its going to have to sit with them, NOT YOU, for the rest of their lives.

I think it's important that people who matter, are the one's involved. And those who don't, they should just be happy for you and to be attending at all! It's a celebration of two families coming together, not one family trying to tear you down. It sucks, it's crappy...but its the ONE day, you're supposed to be completely blissful and happy with how everything is.