Brother's wedding (trigger warning)

Would your brother be able to livestream the ceremony so you can still attend from your home?

Also, I’m very sorry this has happened to you and it is very understandable that you don’t want to be there.

This is a really difficult situation, and my heart goes out to you OP that this has happened to you, and that you are now having to deal with this many years later.

Does your brother know what happened with your uncle? I ordinarily would advocate against asking the bride or groom to disinvite people but I think the circumstances warrant asking your brother to uninvite the uncle. If he is unable to do so, I would explain to your brother that you'll have to sit the wedding out or otherwise perhaps watch on zoom because you cannot bring yourself to be in the same room as that monster, and understandably so.

This person shouldn't be at this event let alone walking the streets, he should be in prison.

Mayliza, I hope you have had support for your situation. If you think talking to someone may help please consider checking out 7 Cups of Tea, a website where you can chat to trained listeners as well as access guides, exercises, and tips for working through a variety of tough situations - http://www.7cups.com/

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. My uncle did the same thing & I held it in for years. When I finally said something, my mother’s side of the basically called me a liar. He was supposed to go to a family reunion that I was going to attend & I was petrified! I told my father (finally) & told him that even though I would love to go but I just couldn’t. A close friend pointed that out to me- if you don’t want to go, you don’t have to. Holding that secret did more damage than good. Talk with your brother. Tell him what’s going on.

View Quoted Comment I totally agree. Mayliza has every right to be at her brother’s wedding over this criminal.

View Quoted Comment I agree. If she is at all comfortable telling her brother why, or at least hinting at it, maybe he could be convinced to un-invite the uncle and any of the other relatives who enabled him.


Sending you lots of strength, OP.

I am so so sorry. He should not have done those things to you. It was not your fault.
Taking care of YOU is what is important. Not going to the wedding is you doing what is good for you, it is strength and bravery.
You don’t owe anyone your story. It’s yours to tell, when, it and to whom, you feel safe with. This is so so hard. I am so sorry.

I’m so sorry for you but agree you need to do what’s best for you. You’re brother will understand in time and will love you regardless

I did go to the wedding. The uncle did not attend much to my relief. I realized that HE should be the one scared of ME.

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Thanks for the update! I'm glad he wasn't there.