FBIL has very generously offered to pay for our honeymoon (that we had no intentions of having!).
But it comes with stipulations. It must be somewhere out of the country, somewhere all inclusive and tropical and it is NOT a family trip so our 2 year old cannot come.
We have been together almost 10 years and have taken one vacation. We aren't travellers. Prior to this offer we were thinking of doing a small mountain trip with our daughter after the wedding, and then doing a family trip to Disney in the spring. So FH told FBIL this and said maybe he could contribute to that instead. Nope.
The only other places we desire to go are not places we are interested in going to alone. We aren't beach resort people. We want to go see Europe, we don't want to lay on a beach.
Further more FBIL "arranged" with FMIL that she would come stay with our LO for the week we are gone. I'm sorry, I'm not leaving my kid with someone she has met all of two times even for a night, nevermind a week. And FMIL has verrrry different ideas on how kids should be raised than we do, and it's just not happening.
But FBIL won't budge and now FH is feeling guilty and bad about turning him down.
I refuse to go on a trip to somewhere I don't want to go, and leave my kid with someone I am not comfortable leaving her with, just so we don't hurt FBIL's feelings. A week of stress on me, FH and our LO is not worth it.
I know many people would LOVE this offer, but for us it's totally out of left field. A honeymoon for the people who don't like to travel and who don't leave their kid behind? Perfect, right?!