I don't know about you, but I hate this advice because as a disabled adult it is more complicated than people realize, especially when your mother is your legal conservator and has that role of caregiver plus we live in the in-law suite of my parents house so my parents are also our landlords
I am disabled so I rely on her for a lot of things, especially anything to do with navigating the system and accessing services as well as stuff like talking on the phone. As a conservator she also helps manage my finances which means that if she gives me a budget, I have to stick with it no matter what and she gets the final say on my purchases.
I just ended a conversation with her about my budget not too long ago saying she said she would pay for most of the wedding, but any details I wanted that she didn't approve I would have to get myself and even then, she would only allow me to spend 2,000 dollars of my own money for those things she doesn't want to pay for, which includes my honeymoon, but allowed me to do anything I want with it. We were looking at dresses online yesterday and I really liked the more fitted dresses, but she was adamant to see me in a ballgown and I don't know, I feel wrong that I have to pick my battles with the stuff I want, especially since all of the advice online is to stand my ground and not listen to them, which I can't do since she is my legal conservator and I don't want to ruin our relationship since I love my mom and I kind of need her in order to survive.
I guess my fiance could pitch in with the cost. He is also disabled and works a part time job and receives SSDI so I don't know how much he can contribute.
Is anyone else in this situation? It is just frustrating because these articles dealing with pushy moms make me feel like a pushover for picking my battles and I should fight more. Then again, my situation is kind of unique
.Sorry, I just need to vent.