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Dedicated March 2018

Buying a house + planning a wedding

Baylee, on October 7, 2017 at 4:21 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 22

My FH and I have been living with my parents. We planned to start house hunting sometime after the wedding so that we wouldn't be too stressed financially. But we would love to get out of my parents house asap (for our own sanity). We have a realtor in the family and she came across an amazing house everything I ever wanted and more for my first home. She just showed it to us and its perfect! Someone's going to scoop it up quickly. Has anyone else been in this same boat?

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Latest activity by Sarah Katreen, on October 9, 2017 at 1:18 AM
  • Sarah
    Just Said Yes November 2017
    Sarah ·
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    Me!! But I decided to wait until after the wedding, although I can't stop looking on Redfin Smiley smile

    I was helping my parents buy a place here since they live out of the country a few years ago. The process is not as fast as I would imagine. So much paperwork and communications back and forth between my realtor and the seller's realtor. Also because it is a big investment, I don't think you should be in a rush. There's going to be a lot of other houses that you will love next year.

    I used to think that too, that someone's going to buy the house before I do. There's going to be other houses that might better than the one you like now. Don't worry about it Smiley smile Just focus on wedding planning. You can save up more while still staying with your parents. Maybe you can even increase your price range for your house and get a better/bigger place.

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  • Amanda
    Devoted June 2018
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    We are right there with you! We live with my parents and are now looking for a house! It's hard!! Can't wait to buy our house

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  • Light Haired Girl
    Expert February 2018
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    I wouldn't rush. I bought my first house when I was 18 or 19 and I rushed for no apparent reason. Now i'm stuck with a rental property until I have enough equity in it to sell.

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  • Boinkin
    Devoted April 2018
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    Bought my first house a year ago, know what's dope for new home owners? That Escrow. Have them set one up for you. Automatically pays your property taxes and home owners insurance for you.


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  • Bridget
    VIP August 2019
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    Us! we cannot wait to buy a house, at the moment we are renting a house but we want to be in a more rural area! There is absolutely nothing in our price range though so we have really no choice but to wait lol! good luck with your search, I hope you get the house that you want!

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  • ahilly
    Just Said Yes May 2019
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    We are with you! We are buying a house this spring -- we chose to flip-flop it. House first, wedding second! As a Realtor and now a lender, buying a house is stressful... I know from first-hand experience! Take your time! Don't try to cram everything stressful and expensive into one year.

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  • Tracy
    Dedicated October 2018
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    We bought our house last year. We simply got tired of throwing away money on rent. So we flipped the traditional way too. I could not imagine adjusting to paying the house payment while wedding planning though. We had quite a larger increase from our rent amount, so that would have been super stressful to plan a wedding while we adjusted to that.

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  • kel.p
    Savvy October 2019
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    We both live with our individual parents and stay over at each other's home from time to time. Our original plan was to save for a house as opposed to renting, although we would be able to afford rent. We do have a son, so that was another reason for desiring our own home as opposed to renting. We did find a house that we loved, but ultimately decided to wait so that way we wouldn't be struggling to pay, and boy am I glad we waited. FH was in a MVA and hasn't been able to work for the past three months. If we decided to purchase the house right then and there, we would have been struggling to make other ends meet in order to pay the house note. My advice would be to make sure you have a reasonable cushion for making payments as well as being able to pay other bills, as you never know what might occur. But ultimately, do what's right for yall! I hope that helps at all!

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  • Keisha
    Master September 2018
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    We bought a house about a month ago. If I can give any advice is make sure you have your wedding money set aside. A house will and can suck all your money. Just getting set up initially is a budget killer. And make sure you budget for starting up expenses and have a healthy emergence fund set aside for what ifs

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  • ABB102817
    Devoted October 2017
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    We just closed yesterday on our first house together and we get married in 3 weeks. So yes, it can be done! But be prepared to be busy!

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  • Audrey
    Devoted October 2018
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    Saving up for both is a nightmare!!

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  • Trish
    Devoted November 2017
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    We started looking for a house in August 2016 and closed on our new construction townhouse April 2017- right when we started planning the wedding. It was a lot all at once, but it was worth it!

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  • Latisha
    Just Said Yes October 2017
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    We are! We actually closed on our first house 5 days ago and are getting married in 13 days! It is crazy, exciting, overwhelming, and amazing...all at the same time! And to top it off, It is a completely DIY wedding, which helps with the budget, but keeps me on my toes even more! Not sure I would recommend it, not for everyone, but I can honestly say that the excitement and joy outweighs the stress!

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  • mataDC
    Devoted September 2017
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    Bought our house 3 weeks before the wedding

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  • I
    Just Said Yes October 2017
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    As others are saying, it can be done! We just went through this. Initially, we had planned to stay in our cheap rental until after the wedding, but we both decided to get our full time jobs where we knew we would be moving. We were both driving between an hour and an hour and a half one way every day! Finally, in May, we decided to buy! We settled on our home at the end of July and are getting married later this month. One thing that I recommend is to go over numbers again and again. Money will more than likely be tight up until the wedding. Make sure that you have enough room to be able to purchase unexpected items for both the house and wedding (which can be pricey)! Overall, we couldn't be any more happy with our decision! It's been overwhelming and extremely stressful at times, but I wouldn't take it back. Additionally, the day after our wedding we will be able to wake up in our home and will not have any significant stress (such as "oh no! Now we have to begin house searching!") haha! I hope this helps! The best of luck to you!

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  • Kate
    Savvy October 2017
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    Me! Bought a house in March and getting married on Saturday! It's been an expensive year but we are happy to be exactly where we want to be.

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  • Opalite
    Expert October 2017
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    We've been house hunting since we got engaged, but here in MA the housing market is atrociously competitive. We're being very picky because we want to buy our forever home, and it's such a seller's market that we simply haven't found anything we want to spring for yet. (When we did see something we would have bought, it had an offer the day it was listed, before we could even look at it.) Then I got a new job in the city we already rent in, so we'll just keep looking. Good luck.

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  • WinterMarie
    Super November 2018
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    We are purchasing our first home right now. We don't feel too stressed about it all as we know we can handle the financial aspect. If you can't or it will be stretching thin then I suggest waiting.

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  • Amburgerr
    Devoted March 2018
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    We were! We pulled the trigger and bought the house. It was the most stressful thing we have ever done... But it made us so strong, and we are so in love with it. We wouldn't do it any other way, it was like it was meant to be when the opportunity fell in our lap

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  • K
    Dedicated October 2017
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    We're in the process of building our home and wedding date is 2 wks away!! On top of that I started a new full time job a month ago...crazy times!!!!

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