byob Wording

Have you checked that the venue allows this? Many allow the couple to provide alcohol, but not for it to be a free for all. I don’t think I would include anything to be honest. Just offer what you want to offer. People bringing their own has the potential to become a liability disaster if people start getting drunk.

View Quoted Comment

My venue is okay with it- it's not a formal venue spot.

Honestly, I think you are offering more than enough. BYOB opens up the risk of guests over-serving themselves, which leads to a whole host of issues. Leave it as is with what you are providing.

We have our mind set on allowing others to bring what they want to drink, we were married back in August, this is just our reception. It's going to be VERY lowkey, more like a family reunion or BBQ, so we want everyone to feel comfortable. My husband and I are going to have liquor for our bridal party to mix with, but we can't afford to provide for all 150 of our guests.

View Quoted Comment I would just put something like “Limited bar available. Feel free to bring what you like.”

View Quoted Comment So I went to a wedding where the couple bought liquor for just their wedding party and it seriously offended a lot of the guests. I would try to avoid that situation.


As for the question, I would list what you're offering on your wedding website and then say "our venue also allows outside alcohol if you would like to bring something more to your taste for personal consumption"

Don't be cute. It confuses half the people, and gets snide remarks from others. Just be straight and clear.
**************"*"""""""*
We have provided :list of mixers sodas.We have provided: cups, napkins i e, whatever true.
Drink what we have, or bring alcoholic beverages to suit yourself.Have a great party!

I’ve been to a couple really casual weddings - both young dual military couples who were going to have big receptions back home.
They did it basically word of mouth - sent out postcard invites, everyone called to RSVP and told us is was BYOB. I guess it’s a “know your crowd” thing - no one minded at all. Most people also brought an extra bottle of wine or liquor to stock their bar at their house.
It was fun and totally in keeping with our crowd back then.

View Quoted Comment

Exactly! My family and friends are very casual, easy going people. We're just getting together to celebrate and have a good time. I know some people sneak their booze into parties, I just want people to know if they want to drink whiskey or something special they're more than welcome to. Thanks for your recommendation!

You don't need a poem or cutesy way to say this. Just put a note at the bottom like "We will be providing, sodas, beer, lemonade, ice tea please feel free to bring other drinks if you prefer"

My venue was BYOB and i provided alcohol already but i only had wine and cognac so i told my guests in an FAQ on my website that if there's something they want that we don't provide, they can bring it no problem!

I would peobably write on your invite or website, "A variety of non-alcoholic drinks will be available but you are welcome to bring your own beverage". Just spelling out BYOB gives it a different tone when you read it but conveys exactly the same idea.

Don't provide something for some of your guests and not for others; that would be very rude.

I feel like guests shouldn't have to provide anything for the party that you're supposed to be hosting. Is there any way you could have quantities of whatever people would be feeling that they needed to bring?

View Quoted Comment

I like Grace's idea. I'm having the same issue with what you're going through. For us, we're not providing alcohol because the cost is just too much for us and we're already way over budget. But our venue allows alcohol brought in. So I think I'm going to use Grace's idea. I might also add a little card inside the wedding invites saying what Grace said.

View Quoted Comment

Love that.

We are actually doing something very similarly. We have wine settlers and beer. But we will have a limited amount. How do you let people know you’ll have stuff but that they can bring their own??