Cake in the face voting

Thats a really cute idea! I still feel kinda weird asking my guests to shell out any money, but I love the voting concept!

Cute execution...but I still don't like the act and we didn't do it. We just fed each other a piece of cake gently/nicely

Love the idea, however, we will NOT be smashing cake in each others face.

Cute idea, but I don't like the smashing at all.

He can't wait to smash cake in my face!

That sounds like fun, but we won't be partaking in the cake smashing...call us uptight or what have you, but we find it disrespectful and not to mention all the $ spent on hair, makeup, and our attire...plus you never waste perfectly good cake! lol

*not to mention that our cake has lots of deep colors died into the buttercream, I don't want to stain either of our faces, my dress, or his suit. The cake is the one for my avatar, so you see what I mean! Lol

I agree it sounds fun but at the same time, I didn't like the cake smashing thing. I thought it was a little disrespectful.

That is a really great idea! We will be partaking in the cake smashing as we both find it very funny! So that is something to consider!

I don't like either cake smashing or collecting money from the guests, so this would have been right out for us.

Hm. I'm surprised how many people think its disrespectful or messy. No cake got anywhere near his suit, or any areas that would be covered in extensive makeup (except lips, which wouldn't have much left after eating anyways). Like I said, we had rules for how it worked.

I'll post a few pics when I'm at my computer, and I think you'll see. It was hilarious and a great part of our wedding and I wouldn't change a thing.

@Anna W. I want to make sure I understand right. The one with the most money in the jar got the cake in the face or did you both get the cake in the face?

I think it really depends on how its done. If its done tastefully in a cute way, like a little frosting on the nose and cheek I could see that being ok. However we went on a double date once, mind you it was the first time we were meeting the BF, and in the middle of the conversation he took a chip off his plate and smashed it on the GF's face. They thought it was funny....I kept my mouth shut and as soon as we got in the car FH was like who the heck does that to someone? I guess it just depends on your humor? lol I'm glad you had fun!

Absofrickinglutely not. Sorry, but I have way too much self-respect to allow anyone to smash food into my face as some delusional gesture of love or commitment or whatever. I never understood how that tradition got started and who on earth continued it. Since when is trying to humiliate or "get one up on" your partner in any way cute or funny? I really just don't get it. And I think any asking for money in any way is equally tacky. I realize I sound super opinionated, but, well, that's just how I am. :-)

Just make sure you and Future Spouse Agree ahead of time. My husband and I didn't talk about it-- he delicately put a piece in my mouth at the same time that I slammed him in the face with a piece and he hasn't forgiven me yet (14 years and he STILL mentions it from time to time!). I say either way is fine-- just come to a consensus.

The one with the most money got the cake, not both of us. And at the risk of sounding equally opinionated- how is this humiliating when both of us agreed? When one partner doesn't know, that's different. But we both thought it would be funny and a cute way for people to laugh with us. If you can't play with the man you love, what is there? So what if it's childish- every single guest was loving it. Act young, stay young at heart.

Our guests had been asking if we were doing a dollar dance and this was a way we could have the same feel but more fun. Maybe if you come from a group where everyone would find it too rough- but that's not us or our guests.

If you don't like the idea, don't do it. But you certainly don't need to bring your negativity into what was in reality a very positive part of our wedding.

Double No. No to fundraising at weddings in ANY form. No to cake in the face... so disrespectful and the complete opposite of the meaning behind the tradition of feeding each other your wedding cake.

Like I said, if you don't agree please feel free to keep your negativity out of my post. I'm not old fashioned, time-bound or boring and neither were my guests. I don't need your judgement so please keep it to yourself.

I am with the ladies who do not like the "cake smashing". I find it to be stupid, and in my opinion, classless.

I also disagree with asking guests to pay for such a thing. I am not a fan of this, a money tree, dollar dance, wedding purse, or honey funds.

In my opinion, tacky, tacky, tacky.

Amy B - I have as much respect as any woman but I also love my husband enough to play around and not value my supposed dignity above having fun with him. I don't see how having a game like this is damaging to my value as a woman, but ok. Also, it's not a delusional gesture of love or commitment, it was something we both agreed would be fun. That's it. Fun, and thus something we wanted to do.

As for asking for money being tacky - are you turning down gifts, or gracefully accepting? Because this was in response to people asking me for us to do a dollar dance in the weeks leading up to the wedding. It's not tacky to respond to what your guests ask for. I literally bought those vases at Wal-Mart the night before. No one had to participate. But then again, apparently my guests are a lot more interesting than what most people have at their weddings. This fit us and everyone had fun with it, including my husband.

@Anna W. Umm, what tells you that those who disagree with your cake smashing are old-fashioned, time-bound and/or boring?

Honey, I am far from any of those, and I disagree with your cake smashing/fund raising.

You posted here, other members are free to respond with their opinions. The lesson to be learned, on a public forum, do not post if you are not ready to read opinions from many different angles. Not everyone will agree with others. This, my dear, is life.