Calling April + May 2020 couples, tell us how your wedding plans have been impacted

My wedding plans have not been affected as of yet. I hold out the hope that they won't. My heart goes out to all those brides/grooms, grooms/grooms, brides/brides and all the variations in between that had been dreaming about their day and it didn't or won't come to fruition. I hope the alternate plans everyone has made are just as magical as the originally planned one.

I took the survey. My new date is up in the air. I have the possibility of October 3rd but idk for sure. I cant wait until April 6th when my area shutdown ends so I can start getting answers and locking in vendors.

Also did the survey. I was originally supposed to get married on April 4th, but with everything thats going on we were able to postpone until July 11th (hopefully) all of our vendors were actually really great about it and locked in the new date pending shutdown nothing changed but our date its still at the same time and same places. Makes me feel completely happy with the vendors we chose. However i have cried ALOT but i locked my website and gave it a brand new makeover for our new date announcement. Just trying to get my bride vibe back and not be so sad

Also took the survey. Was supposed to get married May 30th but made the difficult decision this week to postpone to July 18th. I wanted to be safe rather than sorry but still at this point not sure we are going to be safe come July.

We got pretty lucky with our vendors though, especially for rescheduling for a date that is not that far away. Our venue was available but our church was not. We had to change to my church instead of his, we were a little disappointed because his is a beautiful cathedral and mine isn't, but that's okay. Our photographer was unfortunately not available on our new date either. She was able to set us up with someone else who works for her so our deposit was able to be transferred. Our decorator, florist, videographer, DJ, and bakery were all available. The most important to me were the decorator and florist because 1. we already paid a significant amount and 2. I just met with both of them for the 2nd time and finalized everything.

Our honeymoon is in shambles because of this. We had planned to leave 2 days after our wedding to go to Sandals but all of the rooms are sold out for our new date. We looked at other sandals resorts but read that the weather is not good in july at most of the places so that's the latest thing we are stressing about. We have no idea how things will be in July so we don't even know what to book at this point.

Thinking of all of the brides that are in this situation!

We were April 4th! Sucks to be so close and now have to wait again. We were very lucky though in that all of our vendors were willing to work with us, most without asking for extra payment. My heart goes out to everyone in the same situation! For me, I waited my whole life to marry the man of my dreams, so what's a few more months? We'll get there eventually.

Just took the survey. We were May 22 and will now be January 30. All of our vendors have been great. We will hopefully still get legally married on May 22, as that date is important to us.

Our date was May 23rd - we have postponed indefinitely and are looking at Spring 2021 because we are not convinced that this pandemic will clear up during this calendar year and we have a lot of older guests travelling across the country. Our venue is unable to accommodate this postponement, so we are going to have to start over on planning.

Our wedding was planned for May 23rd 2020. We are still in a state of indecision about our next steps. Our situation is worse because I live and work in a different country away from my SO and we had planned to get married in a third country. We are both stuck where we are and cannot get to the country where we had planned to marry. I have been thinking about getting married online and renewing our vows at a later date when the situation allows but i have no idea if it is legal or even how to go about it. Has anyone thought about doing this?

Did the survey. What I think would be super helpful is a guide for others (family, wedding party members, guests, friends) on how to support a couple that is needing to change wedding plans because of Covid-19. I feel like there are a lot of well meaning people in my life that I have vented to, and they are trying to be supportive but some of the things they say come off as insensitive, completely out of touch, or just make the situation worse.

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Are you my former LC Shark Cody?

Ugh I'm sorry for you either way!

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I don't think so! But I love what you said in your comment about well-meaning people saying really unhelpful things. That has been really hard.

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Oh ok! I have a friend named Cody who I used to work with who was planning his wedding a week before ours and wasn't sure if that was you.

Weddings are so personal. There are couples with aging family members they hope can attend, or who want to start a family soon, or any number of different situations and when people are like "you can just postpone it" it just makes me want to cry. So much time, energy, emotions, money, and resources go into making the details come together and 99% you can't just pick a new date and have it all work out the same. If we end up having to move our wedding, there's a likelihood we'll lose money on vendor deposits, have to change our guest list or won't be able to find a date that works for all our VIPs, possibly need to find and book new vendors and buy new attire, put off starting a family (I'm in my mid-30's, so we really don't want to delay any longer than we have to), etc. Plus all of the emotions of "well when will the pandemic actually end" because we really just don't know if it will be over by our new date or what else might come up. It's just devastating.

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Same, same, same. It's actually so refreshing to hear this from someone. Like, we had a very intricate plan, not just for our wedding but how that fits into our life, and there is no "just postpone it." A lot of people give me a hard time for saying my wedding was "cancelled" rather than "postponed" but as far as I'm concerned, the wedding we had was cancelled. We are now working on an all new one and I can guarantee that it will not be the same.

Also I'm finding it to be a lot of pressure to come up with a new plan quickly, because so many 2020 couples are moving to 2021, in addition to the already 2021 couples! It feels like we are reliving the past year of wedding planning, but in hyperspeed and with less excitement and more disappointment.

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100% right here. I feel like I'm in mourning, and most people just don't get it. We have not made a decision yet (our wedding is scheduled for May 30th and we are waiting until mid-April to make a call, unless a gov't order before then impacts our date) but I just feel like no matter what happens at this point, we've lost something. I know being with my partner and our love and dedication to another is what is most important, but I'm still heartbroken.

I'm not April or May for wedding date, but purchased my dress in NY and had planned to go get it in late May (along with having a bridal shower with my family & friends in NY). TBD on what will happen.

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Kari, everything you said is so on point. People just don't get how traumatic this is. You have every right to be heartbroken. Your feelings are SO valid. It's easier for younger couples I think to postpone (it still is devastating, don't get me wrong) but for those of us in our mid-30s, that's really not much of an option. And when you've waited, say, idk 10 YEARS for this to happen, while all your other friends had their moments, it SUCKS. My thoughts are with you. (I actually started a previous discussion about this very topic).

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I just found your post and am 100% with you and so sorry. It's awful. It truly is. I really hope you can still have your wedding. I found your other post (and will comment there) - our situation resonates SO MUCH. I wish there was anything I could do to change things and make it hurt less.

Thanks. I have felt a little better posting on here (and talking to a neutral third party, like a therapist).

I think we'd all love to say we could turn back the clock even a few years. Throughout my 20s and early 30s, all I met were deadbeats and/or those whom i had zero chemistry with. I question that all the time: "Why did I meet him so late in life?"

But, as the saying goes, you do what you can, and you can't control most things, least of all a pandemic.

It sucks to hear this but I try to count my gratitudes, because, I am in so many ways, lucky. I consider myself lucky to have met him at all. I have my health. I am lucky to have a job that allows me to work from home (at least right now).

That being said, it doesn't take away from how we feel. I'm still angry that this is happening at the most important time period in my adult life. I am concerned that not having those two milestones: a wedding day and a honeymoon will cause resentment that is no one's fault.

I used to think if the world goes to hell, at least I'd have a wedding day; or at least I'd travelled and had good times. Because those are the moments your brain focuses on - not the mundane. This is WHY a wedding day is so important - screw anyone else who thinks otherwise.

My point is ... I'm here if you want to talk You have a right to feel how you feel.

We've now extended the social distancing parameters until April 30th. Gulp.

Hi All! Our original date was April 18th, 2020 but the wedding has been postponed to December 6th, 2020. We have been extremely lucky and our team (photographer, DJ , florist, etc.) is available that day. I believe their availability has made me calmer through all of this.