Calling in-laws "mom" and "dad"?

I liked my first set of future in laws...but I knew something was up when they offered to pay for part of the wedding, but she was alllll my responsibility going forward. LOL.

I call my in laws by their first names. MIL signs things like cards "Mom N." But I've never called her that.

Im not planning on doing this. I feel that I have only one set of parents and do not feel comfortable calling anyone else my mom or dad, and I have a good relationship with my FIL's. Although I think my fmil would love if I did call her mom but I cant bring myself to do this.

My brother’s wife calls our parents mom and dad. They told her she could though after the wedding. I’m super close with my in-laws, but I call them by their first names.

My coworker does this with her in-laws and in general, it REALLY weirds me out.

This won't be the case for me. They are first name and first name, not mom and dad.

For me, that depends on how comfortable you feel and what they want. My fiance's mom doesn't like it when her own kids call her mom, so they call her by her first name which is what she wants me to call her. I'm not really comfortable calling her by her first name because of how I was brought up, but I also don't feel comfortable calling her mom because my own mother passed away a few years ago and it's still an issue for me.

My sister's MIL wants me to call her mom, but I call her by her first name. Very different relationship there.

I was extremely close to my own parents, so when we first married, it seemed weird to call anyone else "mom" or "dad," so I called in-laws by their first names. FIL passed away unexpectedly the year after we married. Especially after our daughter was born, I became very close to my MIL (I finally really appreciated what her life had been like raising seven kids and saw everything about her in a different light...). When I talk about her in the third person, I usually refer to her as "Gramma Katie," as our daughter does, but when I talk with her directly, I always call her (and think of her as) "mom."

We've known FSIL for 6 yrs now, and love him like our own. His mom is alive, but they don't have a great relationship; however, I try to be VERY careful to not over-step -- he has a mom and I would never want to intrude on that relationship. However, a few weeks ago, he addressed a card to me as "mom," and I cried. In my heart, he is my son, and has been for a least a couple of years. Recently we were all together, and I referred to him as my son-in-law. Daughter told me later how much that meant to him.

I think it has to do with the relationships and has to be negotiated in a way that is comfortable for everyone.

I call my future MIL Mi, which is Filipino for Mom (they are Filipino), but I call his dad by his name. Like other posts, it is all about relationship.

I've called my fiance's parents mom and dad sense before we were engaged, it just feels right for us. It all comes down to your relationship with them and what you're comfortable with.

I call FH's grandma "grandma", and his aunts "Aunty 'first name'". I don't call his parents mom and dad, and don't think I will.

Yeah I'm with @shauna on this one. My in-laws will continue to be called by their first name. I do, however, call his grandmom "mom-mom" but that's just how she was introduced to me and it just stuck.

Nope, I call my in laws by their first names. But I do call his grandparents mum pop and grandma

I'm not

Honestly, something different comes out every time for me. I grew up calling my friends parents mom and dad, just because we were all so close. Also accidentally called my 4th grade teacher mom, so maybe I just really like calling people mom...

I do also have a huge extended family though, 1 of 18 cousins, so in big settings I refer to all adults by their first name if it's a matter of getting someone's attention. My family doesn't find it disrespectful, just that in a room full of 9 mom's, it's hard to get the right one to respond.

I'm also not going to blame this on being adopted, but I had multiple mom's, before my actual mom. So I feel like I might affectionately attach the title to anyone who has really cared for me and shaped me throughout my life.

I don't think there is a wrong answer to this question though, whatever seems to feel right for you.

I don't even call my own parents mom & dad. They're either what my nephews call them (Mimi and papa) or their first names. It's been that way for at least 10 years.

Not a chance in hell I will call my in laws Mom and dad. They're not my parents. They're fine - but they're not my parents.

I call them by their first names because that's how they introduced themselves when I met them. He calls mine by their first names, too.

I called my former in-laws by their first names. My dad is remarried so I already have two moms. Calling former MIL "mom " seems redundant.

I call his parents Mom & Dad and he calls mine Mom & Dad

My FIL would've killed me if I called him by his name. He introduced himself as Dad and that's what I called him. I do the same to MIL, she's more of a mom to me than my own

I call my MIL mom, but my FIL Tim. For me it just feels weird to call him dad because my dad passed away. That's just me though.