Can i host my Bridal Shower at the same venue as the wedding

I dont think it would be weird, especially as it's a separate space.

I don’t think it would be weird to have them at the same place, but you shouldn’t be hosting your shower.

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Hi there, I don't think my sisters or friends will to be honest with you

It would not only weird but extremely rude to host your own shower. The location is irrelevant.

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If no one hosts one for you, you don't have one. Simple as that.

Other posters are right - you really can't host your own shower. A shower is a party thrown in your honor and to throw it for yourself is not appropriate. The invitation would be the equivalent of you very directly asking for a gift.

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None of my friends or family hosted mine. So that meant I just didn't have one.

You do not host your own shower to be given gifts. That is beyond against etiquette.

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Hi - I just saw a different post of yours and that your wedding is taking place in South Africa... Is the culture different in South Africa? Is it typical to host one's own shower and that's why you're asking? In the US at least it's considered a huge faux pas / very rude to host your own shower - but that could be a culture thing maybe?

I am having my wedding and shower at the same place!

Hi there ,

So in South Africa you normally have the bridal shower and bachelorette in one event. So for me it's sad to hear this, because I really wanted to have a bachelorette party with my family and friends before the wedding. We normally have cake and tea with the grandmas and mothers to celebrate and then the friends go out partying.

There is nine months before your wedding. Relax, there is so much time for someone to plan something if they choose. People plan elaborate weddings, and other events, in much less time than that!

Nope. It’s definitely not weird to have your bridal party in the same space as your wedding. But everyone’s right. Throwing your own party is a huge no no.

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Yeah but I am broke af and I need to plan this according to my extremely low budget and make monthly payments

My shower will be on the same grounds as my wedding as well, but not the same space so I think it should be fine!

View Quoted Comment If you are broke why are you wanting to throw another party?

I think it’s a great idea especially since the dining area is more private. It’s also GORGEOUS ✨and everyone will love it. Also I see where everyone is coming from as far as not hosting your own shower due to possibly coming off as you wanting gifts from everyone. However if you honestly think no one will host one for you, especially once it gets closer, perhaps just have a get together instead of calling it a shower? Maybe like a pre bachelorette luncheon? And don’t ask for gifts/don’t include your registry on invites for that luncheon however keep your registry updated and simply include your registry link on your save-the-dates and/or wedding invitations. Hopefully this helps. Congrats on your engagement! ✨💕

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I agree with this question. OP, hosting a shower can be pretty expensive, especially at a place other than someone's home, because you are responsible for everyone's costs. If no one is offering to host it, and you are already struggling, I would definitely not have another party no matter what you call it (shower, luncheon, tea, etc.). It is considered very poor manners to throw a party for yourself where the sole purpose is to bring you gifts, which is what a shower is. It literally means to "shower" you with gifts.

Alright.

So I believe I apparently need to clear up my previous message lol:

From my perspective I have a very close knit friends/small circle of family; however we are more emotionally (rather than physically close) So honestly if people were not able to travel much before the wedding, simply didn’t want to host or didn’t have an area to, whatever the case may be...
I would simply want to have a get together with my group of “framily” just as another time to visit.

Also if I had a get together I was hosting I wouldn’t ask for any gifts (honestly to me the point of my shower is more to visit with my girls and family rather than the gifts. Like I’ve posted on my registries/told everyone
“simply your presence is worth far more than any gift”.

& It’s understandable if people can’t make it to things because life does get busy, however I never want people to feel pressured or anything to get gifts for me...even on Christmas coming up. Ive lost a loved one close to me. They passed away in 2011.

Sooo I speak honestly when I say I’d MUCH rather receive time with people (as much as I possibly can) rather than any material object.

oh and also in my perspective and my example my get together/luncheon whichever it would be (if I would have it) would also be free because we would meet either at my house or somewhere in the middle of us like a restaurant. (Besides the cost for a small meal. If I choose to have one or simply eat before hand and just have cocktails).

Again this is my opinion and just an example. I didn’t want anyone to be missing out on anything.
I see it as having an opportunity to visit with people that you may not see again. May not be for a year. May not be forever.
Sounds morbid lol.

However this was my take on it and even though I do have my MOH hosting my shower. This was my plan if no one would have been able to host.

I would’ve just had possibly a sleep over or a small gathering to see my girls/any family that were able to make it and used it as a way to visit with everyone especially before things became hectic...again. Haha.

I also said before. So I’ll say again so everyone knows where I stand. I see where it may come off as “only wanting gifts” etc. if you host your own “shower” however if you don’t ask for gifts, not on the invites etc and you know the personalities of the people you’re close with (I’m more close with my friends than a lot of family honestly) I would simply have a girls night with them and call it good.

thats what I would do. It’s your decision though Cindy and this time, as well as festivities leading up to the wedding, are about you and whatever will make you happy.
Congrats to everyone on their engagement.

Hope everyone has a great weekend

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