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Beginner September 2019

Can i just skip the bachelorette and bridal shower?

Emily, on June 27, 2019 at 8:38 AM Posted in Parties and Events 0 12
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Is it weird that I don’t want a bridal shower or bachelorette party? I know it’s traditional and I’m supposed to let people throw these parties for me.. but it’s just not what I want. I am extremely busy at work and my wedding is 2 months away and I need to devote every last bit of free time and weekends to finish up the huge list of things I still need to do. Also.. Im a control freak.. and if I can’t plan it then I don’t even wana do it. And if we’re gona get even deeper.. I have a big problem with accepting things/help/attention from others. I don’t even like celebrating my birthday because I just hate having people go out of there way to do things for me. All of my friends and some of my family are pissed that I don’t want to have these two traditional parties and they keep telling me I just need to allow them to celebrate. I am soooo looking forward to my wedding and I just don’t understand why the wedding day celebration of our love isn’t enough for people. Why can’t they just accept that I don’t want a bridal shower or bachelorette party? Am I crazy?

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Latest activity by Lady, on June 27, 2019 at 3:17 PM
  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    You're not crazy. It's totally fine to skip these kinds of events. Just let them know that you appreciate their offer, but you don't have the desire or the time for either event. They will get over it.

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  • Sara
    Super October 2019
    Sara ·
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    Agreed - if you don't want to do it, you certainly don't have to. Do keep in mind that you could still do a "bachelorette party" that's super low key just to spend some time with your girls if that's appealing to you.

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  • M
    Super June 2019
    Mary ·
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    You can say no and leave it at that. I didn't have either and didn't want them. I don't regret it.
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  • Lizbeth
    Devoted May 2020
    Lizbeth ·
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    I'm not having any of those. I think it's fine.
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  • Kelly
    VIP October 2020
    Kelly ·
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    It's fine to skip. People just get too invested in the parties and not enough on the love.
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  • Emily
    Super April 2020
    Emily ·
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    I agree, you can say no and leave it as is.

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  • Steph
    Dedicated June 2019
    Steph ·
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    I felt the same way you did. First off I get so annoyed with Bridal parties because most of my friends have been living with their fiancé for years. So I think the idea of a bridal shower is outdated and should go away. And my friends were planning me a bachelorette party and I canceled it a week before and decided to take a 17 hour road trip to New Orleans with 3 friends. Worth it!

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  • Iva
    Super September 2019
    Iva ·
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    No, of course you don’t have to have them if you don’t want to!
    I’m skipping bridal shower because I think it’s weird to ask people to give me a gift at shower & then another one at our wedding. And I really don’t need anything & don’t like just getting more stuff (minimalist over here lol). I’m doing bachelorette party because I want to have a fun night with my 6 closest friends. The point is: do what you like!
    I would give a friendly advise though to maybe try to work on your issue with accepting help/attention from others, hating celebrating your birthday etc. This issue can really have a negative effect on your marriage & close relationships in general.
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  • M
    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    Totally ok to skip out on them.
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  • MrsD
    Legend July 2019
    MrsD ·
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    If you want to skip them, you totally can!

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  • Allie
    Expert April 2019
    Allie ·
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    Totally fine to skip them! People might come forward and ask if they can host either event but it’s 100% OKAY(!!!) to say thank you but no thank you.
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  • L
    Lady ·
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    No problem to decline them! Just be gracious if someone offers, but you definitely do not have to have either just because most people do Smiley smile

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