Can i throw my own bridal shower?

I wouldn't as it looks like you are just asking for gifts then. If no one wants to host one then I just accept that you aren't going to have one.

You could ask your mom or hint to her that you are interested in having one? My mom and mother in law are planning mine with my sister and sister in law.

I'm going to have the unpopular opinion that I don't see the big deal if you throw your own bridal shower. According to Etiquette it is rude for you to throw your own bridal shower yet I don't understand why it's not rude for people throw their own birthday parties where people usually come and bring you gifts. But that's my opinion. Maybe you could just have a bridal brunch and invite people over to your place and maybe say in the invitation that gifts are not necessary. Would the purpose of your shower be that you want gifts or you just want to have a bridal shower? This might be a little bit rude. I would ask other people's opinions on here but maybe have you asked anyone of your bridal party or some of your family to host a shower and you can help them plan it?

It’s extremely rude to throw yourself a shower.

No, you can't throw yourself a shower. Maybe check in with your mom/MOH to let them know you are interested in having one.

View Quoted Comment I really just want one to celebrate, play games, and have fun with the most important women in my wedding.

View Quoted Comment I would ask your mom to host and host so that our just invite your friends over to celebrate no gifts needed.

A shower is a gift giving event: you "shower" the bride with gifts. While people tend to bring gifts to a birthday party, no one sits there and watches the person open the gifts. If no one offers to host a shower, you can host a bridal brunch or something and say "no gifts" on the invitation. That way you still celebrate with people and play the games, but there isn't a whole chunk of time dedicated to watching you open presents.

I agree with (nearly) everyone else, that you cannot throw your own shower. I also wouldn't ask or hint to anyone else that you want them to host it. Throwing a party is expensive and a lot of work; it's essentially a HUGE gift. And it's not appropriate to ask for a gift like that.

That said, you can certainly invite your loved ones to your house for a get together at any time and there's no need to make it wedding related to do so. So, plan a nice party with good food and drink, and invite your closest family and friends, and enjoy spending time with them. It doesn't need to be complicated.

Agree with others that there is a huge risk of negative reactions to hosting a shower for yourself. It may come across as "gift grabby." (The same would be true for planning/hosting a birthday party for oneself.) I agree with others, that depending on your relationships, you might talk with your mom about whether she might be willing to host one. Also, your wedding is still about 5 months away, so there is time. I hosted daughter's shower, and planned it in a little under 6 weeks (we had to move it up to fit the schedule of one of the MOHs who lives out of state and was going to be in town).

I wouldn’t throw your own. I would maybe bring it up to a family member that you would like one- they may not know!

I wouldn't recommend it. I would hint to your mom, aunt, bridal party that you would like one.

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Actually that's considered rude too. You should never throw gift-giving parties for yourself, whether that be a shower or a birthday party.

View Quoted Comment Since when? Not in my circle of people. Not everyone will throw you a party but that's just me. We're far from rude people.

Everyone in here (pretty much) thinks it's rude to throw your own parties.

I have a good enough relationship with my MOH, grandma, mom, and a coworker (who is basically my second mom) that I pretty much said "hey guys, here's what i want for a bridal shower, what parts do you want to do?"

My coworker is going to find the venue and probably buy the invites, my MOH will decorate/do the menu, and my mom and grandma will pay for everything.

A LOT of this is "know your crowd"...my FH family would probably think it was rude or weird if I was that open with them about who is REALLY throwing my bridal shower (because really, it's me). BUT my family/MOH don't really care.

So essentially I'm orchestrating the bridal shower while a few ladies are "hosting" it for me.

I did the same thing with my engagement dinner.

I told my mom/grandma I was interested in having one, and they kind of slacked on it so I got invitations and put my grandmas number as the RSVP (she was fine with this). My grandma and mom have both told me they like that I do this because I do most of the work and they get the credit for it. Which is FINE with me haha I get the type of party I want and no one thinks I threw it for myself and judges me.