Cancel wedding

My wedding is 09/19/20 & we’re just waiting it out... luckily all vendors and major things are booked/bought, and we don’t have any guests traveling from out of state. That’s my positivity through this madness. I’ve heard of a lot of April/May/June brides that rescheduled to September - giving more hope that September should be fine.. We are expecting about 170 people though so not sure what the guidelines will be once shelter is lifted. Fingers crossed!

I think as far as post phoning it really depends where you live. NY brides I would deff post phone until 2021 but WV or OH brides may be okay? I am 10/31/20 that is basically November. Unless it returns. I will see how things are in July. I did confirm my vendor is available May of 21 but they can't hold the date until I decide in July so I had to let the date go and hope for the best here in Ohio.

View Quoted Comment I am a NY bride and am getting married in October and have not postponed nor do I plan to. I dont know why you would say NY brides deff need to postpone. There are many parts of NY that are not bad compared to NYC so much could change. I think its still a week by week process and its kinda unfair to just say NY brides deff should postpone, all brides are struggling and reading you saying that doesn't really help. I think right now no one should be postponing for fall weddings when we don't even know what's going to happen next month. Im not trying to be rude but it's a tough time for all brides and no one should be saying certain brides should be postponing!

View Quoted Comment New York here as well and quite frankly Taylor it is incredibly rude to single out NY brides. At a time when we should be supporting one another through this crisis your comment is incredibly insensitive.

We are now September 2021. Honestly, NY might be the safest place to have a wedding in the late summer/Fall due to herd immunity. I mean its all speculation at this point.

IMO I think August- September are promising months.
But depends on where you live and regulations.
I’ve been thinking of postponing later in the year but I fear about the second wave of Covid-19 that can happen during flu season. August and September aren’t around flu seasons.

View Quoted Comment I don’t think she meant to disregard or disrespect NYC Brides. I’m in Florida and everything you hear in the news how NYC is such a HOTSPOT! And that the virus is everywhere. My mother lives in NYC and she doesn’t want me coming not till months after due to how rampant it is.
I think many would think it a challenge for NYC brides. I pray this too passes quickly so all brides are able to celebrate with family and friends. As I said were in Florida and our wedding was scheduled for 10/24/2020 bu we’ve postponed. This 3 phase plan implementation last week will cause much hiccups to weddings due to the social distancing and 50 people max. We have 160-170 guest count and we’re in our 50’s so we have to be very careful . Bottom line as much as we wanted to keep it for October and with everything changing daily the stress wasn’t worth it for us.. I wanted the entire experience with my ladies of a bridal shower, bachelorette party which was cancelled for July The Essence Festival . So each state will be different and the requirements will differ as well. Our venue advised us that May through August Brides we’re rescheduling. Again we’re in Florida. Just all be safe and positive . As they say WE ARE ALL IN THIS TOGETHER!!!

Your feelings of valid. I have had moments of panic and anxiety. I am a September bride and we are waiting until closer to June/July to make a decision. We have had conversation of “what if”, so that when the time comes we aren’t overwhelmed with feelings due to avoid the conversations. One thing that helped me was to take a wedding break. I put all planning aside which helped me refocus and move forward without high anxiety.

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I agree because they are slowly lifting the bans now. I think September brides are good until the government says different. Good luck to all the upcoming brides. Mine was suppose to been April 18th but we had a mini ceremony(20 guests) on April 4th in my kids backyard. Our original ceremony will be September 12th.....

View Quoted Comment As a bride who LIVES in Virginia, has all- but my dad/stepmom & his mom/stepdad- family living in UPSTATE NY I am SUPER panicked at the thought of having to postpone a wedding 8 YEARS in the making!
Plus my dad now has cancer and I don’t know if he will be around for a postponement. And yes, I get I can do a suuuuuper small ceremony. But, this is my first wedding- and damn it I want the fairy tale! After all I have been through- am going through with my health & FSD, I deserve MY dream day!!! 🥺😭

I am having a hard enough time trying to keep my sh8t together- then FH sends text “ Our wedding is in serious jeopardy. Munich has cancelled Octoberfest. Starts same weekend. Also the Pamplona running of the bulls is cancelled” and this person says that NY brides should postpone! That is NOT helpful- even if it was meant to be so. It just causes us who ARE getting married in NY- not NYC!, as there’s a big state that is NOT NYC!!!!- to become depressed, despondent, panicked and really unsure of what to do.
I have been trying to stay positive and am now having a really hard time doing so. This has been the ONE thing I have had to look forward to and now it is being taken away from me.....

My wedding is set to be September 5th in Italy. Most of my family and friends will be flying out of Dominican Republic and the tri-state area. I'm considering postponing because of the fact that Italy makes everyone panic right now and since it's a destination wedding. I assume people would have started to organize their travel around this time and this is definitely on no one's mind.

Concerns: A second wave, travel restrictions, people buying flights and then having to spend money on changing...

I feel like it would all be so much easier to be done with it and change the date.

View Quoted Comment I hear you, it’s a hard decision to make I just did it myself. I was in the same mind space how do I send out invites soon for people to book travel? It’s an emotional roller coaster. Hang in there, you’ll make the best decision for you guys! ❤️

Our wedding is supposed to be September 12 and I called my venue to see what their postponement policy is during this craziness ( our contract only addresses cancellations) and found out that they are permanently closing at the end of this year due to revenue losses, so my only options are to cancel now and lose my deposit or wait until August and if the governor has restrictions that prohibit our wedding, cancel with a month to go and get my money back. 🙃 There will be no rescheduling with this vendor so I would be back to the drawing board....

I’m September 17th- not sure what to do besides try not to freak out. It’s hard to predict so we are holding out, but I’m not sure what is going to happen. We have a lot of high risk important family members. So I’m praying it will work out, but already warned my girls in the party we may have to postpone.

View Quoted Comment Agree! Wait couple months and see

Update: I have previously responded to this thread. Still holding off on canceling my events and reassessing in July. Shower is 8/22/2020 and wedding day is 9/19/2020 both in high desert Southern California.

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Not trying to be rude... Look at the numbers in NY aren't you the epicenter of the virus lol. As of today there are over 250,000 cases in NY alone and that is the entire state, and it is predicted to grow to over 2 mil cases. NYC is the epi center of this virus and that is fact. The original post asked about canceling your wedding. My opinion is still yes if I lived in NY I would deff cancel or reschedule. As far as the other states for Sept. Oct possibly as well. Time will tell

View Quoted Comment I think specifying would have been better. NYC is completely different, then where we are. My location is on the decline, so putting us all in one is kinda unfair. Its not really something to laugh at, when all of us brides are struggling with losing something we have planned so long for. And just stating we need to reschedule isn't really fair to us brides in NY when you only know what's on the news. You are entitled to your opinion but u think voicing it different would have been beneficial. NYC may be the epicenter but NY is not. I think right now, we have to be even more cautious of voicing our opinions because emotions are EXTREMLY high and any little thing is hard on people. We need to support eachother, even if we personally think someone needs to reschedule, we need to understand brides are terrified.

95% sure we will postpone. Seeing if our venue can do October 2021 as those are the only fall dates they have open next year.

I think location definitely plays a part (among other factors)...as an east coast bride with all family in NYC/NJ we have postponed from September to 2021.