Cancelled wedding support

I’m so sorry, I know exactly how you feel. My husband and I also got married on our original date and planned to do the reception next June. Just tonight we were discussing if it makes sense to even go forward with spending all the additional money or just take the loss. I definitely regret not wearing my dress for our ceremony and now I may never get to either. We’re just so conflicted, especially since we have no idea how COVID will be affecting the world by then. We’re ready to move on and work on building our lives and family. Wishing you all the best!

I completely understand! We haven’t cancelled ours yet (October 24,2020) but it’s looking like we might have to. I’ve had mine planned for over a year and a half and we’re not postponing. I was heartbroken when I found out that my state was basically going back into quarantine. But don’t feel bad about feeling sad! Oh and just remember that you still got to get married to the love of your life! I’ve had to remind myself many times that it’s not about how big and extravagant the wedding is but it’s about marrying your best friend!

I’m so sorry! Maybe have a photoshoot done in your dress along with your husband in a tux. Get your hair, nails, and makeup done as you would have on the big day. You can even do a “first look.” While it isn’t the same as having the big wedding, it might help you feel like you had a bridal moment, and the photos would be beautiful!

Hi Gio! Being a coronabride is not something I would wish on anyone, it’s a soul crusher. Anyway I guess I would just say to remember these times are not gonna last forever, there’s so much to look forward to as a newlywed. And who knows, maybe someday you’ll decide to have a big ass party and wear that dress! Hang in there girl!

Hi Gio,
I’m so sorry you’re going through this! I had to cancel my May 23rd wedding & we postponed to August 23rd. Then we cancelled the big wedding and are just doing something very small. I’ve struggled with feeling down & like my day wouldn’t be special. I have changed my way of thinking & in the end, I just want to be married. I don’t care if only 2 people show up. I will marry my best friend in 21 days. We tried to postpone until next year & just have a big celebration but our venue has no dates available. This is beyond my control and I can’t change it so I’ve decided to accept it and move on. I’m sorry you never got to wear your dress! Why don’t you schedule a photo shoot & get your hair and makeup done so you’ll have some bridal portraits. No one has to know that it was done after your wedding! Hang in there. And know your feelings are very valid. Wishing you all the best!!

Im so sorry this happened to you 😔. I was May then Sept and now holding hope for February. But you know what, you guys made the best decision for you and remember that you have a lifetime of being with your best friend ahead of you, no big party is better than that. I do LOVE everyone’s suggestion on the photo shoot! That’s a great idea, you get a little pampering and you can catch that photo of your husband (🥰) seeing you in that dress. You’ll get a beautiful album out of it and celebrate your love a different way!

Hello Gio,


Take it day by day. I too am in the same emotional “tug-o-war”. My wedding was originally on April 30th, we rescheduled to September 18th and have now cancelled. Unlike you, we have not gotten married yet. This is the second wedding for both of us and my FH wants to have the destination wedding he has always wanted. We live in New York and the wedding was to be in Key Largo, Florida at a beautiful resort with a beach ceremony. Although I would love to do a simple ceremony here, I have to wait a my daughter and parents live in Florida and cannot travel to New York at this time. I cannot picture my wedding without my daughter by my side. We are hoping that there will be a time in 2021 where we can all be together and I can finally marry my soulmate. I wish you lots of love and happiness.... and I too, think doing a photo shoot would be a beautiful memory.

View Quoted Comment This situation just sucks doesn't it! I'm sorry this is happening to you too. Thank you for your kind words. Best of wishes to you and your family as well!

View Quoted Comment Thank you!

View Quoted Comment Thank you! And I hope things work out for you too!

View Quoted Comment Thank you for your kind words. I hope things work out for you in February!

Thank you all for your kind words. I am truly truly touched! You cannot even begin to understand what your responses mean to me. I will never forget this. I honestly did not expect so much support. Thank you and I'm so sorry that this situation has affected all of you in one way or another. I have read all of your messages and you have given me great ideas. I considered a photo shoot with the dress too and actually reached out to our photographer to see if he would give us credit for the 50% of the total that we already paid but he said we knew what we signed in the contract and if we want a photo shoot we have to pay the whole thing while I do know what I signed I found his response extremely cruel in this situation. I didnt chose this, it just happened. And we were not expecting a 4 hr shoot but perhaps 1 hr would have been great. So that obviously put me in a very sad mood. So last night I did a thing. I had a few glasses of wine and put on my dress and I just showed it to my husband haha. I'm sure in a few months I can revisit the idea of getting another photographer and doing a few pictures but maybe for now for my emotional health I'm going to try to put everything out of my mind. Thanks again all of you wonderful souls for your messages. Be safe!


-Gio

I am going through something similar. My fiance and I were going to get married June next year but had to push it to 2022 due to COVID. And it's not silly that you are upset going through this. The way I see it COVID has affected everyone in some way, but what is bad for some isn't bad to others. A wedding is a BIG deal so don't feel bad being upset.

I feel for you sooo much! It's truly such a horrible thing to have had everything planned and envisioned in your head, only for none of it to happen. The only thing that makes it a little better for me, is coming on here and relating to all of you who've also been dealing with the same things. It's awesome that you put the safety of your family and friends above money and your "perfect" day. We will still be getting married on our original wedding date, 8/16 with just us and our MOH as a witness. We cancelled our original wedding plans entirely, because I don't see this getting any better. At least not as soon as we wanted to get married. We're just gonna do something small with everyone once it's safe to do so. I wish you the best and hope you find some time to breathe after going through such an unfortunate wedding experience. But there's plenty of us who can relate and are willing to cry about our ruined day with you!

Thank you for creating this topic. I'm so sorry this happened to you. Our wedding was originally supposed to be April 19th. We cancelled the wedding but still got legally married. We postponed until October 23rd, but because we are in FL (current hot spot) and my husband's family lives in Canada (the border is closed and so they are completely unable to come), we are cancelling. I know that people are dying and my problems are small, but I am heartbroken. We planned our April wedding for almost 2 years. I am devastated that I will never get to be a bride, have my dad walk me down the aisle, have a first dance, and wear my wedding dress. It just feels so unfair. I do feel so lucky to be married to my soul mate, and I know that is whats most important, but that doesn't make this any less hard right now. I'm sending my love to all of us who have had to make difficult choices and feel guilty being sad because the world is in chaos right now. I'm hoping a beautiful rainbow is coming for each and every one of us.

View Quoted Comment Thank you for your kind words Erica

View Quoted Comment Reading this breaks my heart! I wish you didnt have to go through this either. Big virtual hug to you! Maybe when this is over we should do a cancelled wedding tears party and drink till we're passed out in our dresses!

View Quoted Comment I like that! Crying for all of us makes me feel less selfish than crying for my self! I'm sending all be best wishes your way and hope that your ceremony is wonderful!

Gio,


Congrats on getting married, that’s still a very happy event through all of this insanity! I’m sorry to hear about your wedding day covid madness. Maybe in a couple of years you & your husband could do a vow renewal…It’s not the same thing as the wedding itself, however, it’s just as amazing, plus you can save money by not needing an officiant since you’re already married. I don’t think the world will be this crazy forever, at least I can hope not.

It is not dump at all that u cried..I keep crying but my FH did not understand why. I planned a day I thought was going to be awesome and then nothing..I couldn’t help but be selfish and ask why this was happening to me. I still have my dress and have no idea what to do with it.