i need some advice or just anything due to the whirlwind of emotions.
Wedding was set to take place 10.13 this year. Deposits were made, everything seemed to be on track and the bachelorette party of a free concert was set to take place next weekend. Our wedding was nothing crazy but it was a party for our big families. Fiancé and I were going to pay for majority of the wedding. My family is okay financially but not able to pay for a wedding. Fiance’s Family is okay financially but said they do not want to pay for any part of the money as they believe it is the brides family who is responsible for everything. They are also paying for part of their daughters wedding. So I understand their stance entirely.
Fiance Lost his job recently and we cannot pay for this wedding anymore. I asked to see if I could get help or just downsize everything and our dog getting extremely sick and my car breaking down in the same month just did it. We cancelled our wedding. I asked my fiancé to see if wants to postpone for 6 months and he said no. He said he wants to not have a wedding anymore or wait 5-10 years down the line. He thinks we should elope on the day we set and maybe not do anything for awhile.
Im just upset and a mess of feelings because we lost our deposits, have some dress I’m not going to wear for a long time just hanging out and we have his sisters wedding coming up 3 months after our date. Just any advice on what to do or how to navigate these negative feelings. I understand it’s out of my control and I feel like I sound like a jerk but idk how I feel about eloping after all of that and just feel like it’s a complete mess
