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Kaza
Just Said Yes January 2020

Candlelight Ceremony - too much?

Kaza, on May 14, 2019 at 12:35 PM Posted in Wedding Ceremony 1 9
Hello,

So it's been twirling in my head awhile and now I'm starting to get paranoid. FH and I started brainstorming and decided that we wanted a "different" ceremony. Bear with me... This is an indoor winter wedding.
We were going to black out the room at the start of the procession song, and only the aisles would be lit by candles and just enough around the chairs so people could find their seats. Ushers would help people get seated. We have a procession song (Claire de Lune/Moon River on a grand piano) that's about 5 minutes. First, I had my flower girl (she's actually 16), who was going to lead the procession with a lantern and candle in it. She'd go to the altar, and light a few candles and while she did that an usher "off set" would turn up a dimmer switch which would fade up the lights of the altar made of 3 bare trees with white lights. The rest of the procession would happen, and right before I would walk down the aisle, the officiant would cue everyone to stand, and they'd turn on tea lights at their seats (There'd be a sign and ushers would explain it to them as they seat them). Then I'd walk down the aisle.
I may have inspired that last bit off of Crazy Rich Asians...
All that said... I'm now worried that it's "too much". I started googling and couldn't find anything similar to it. I haven't been to a wedding that did anything like this. On the one hand, I want it to be memorable. On the other... are people going to think it's weird?


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Latest activity by FutureStephD, on May 15, 2019 at 11:33 AM
  • Summerbride77
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    Summerbride77 ·
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    That’s actually sounds stunning. I don’t think you’re definitely doing to have to have a few rehearsals. I might have lights on for people to find their seats and then dim everything to just candle lights before the processional starts. You also want to talk to your photographer as shooting in that kind of light requires skill
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  • Kaza
    Just Said Yes January 2020
    Kaza ·
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    Thanks for the input. You’re right, we definitely have to rehearse, and I think you’re right. We should leave the lights on until the procession.
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  • Future Mrs. K
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    Personally if I went to a wedding that did this I would roll my eyes. Too much drama for me.

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  • Littlebride
    Dedicated January 2020
    Littlebride ·
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    Smiley smile sounds beautiful!!!
    But I agree about having the lights on while ppl walk in. I wanted to do something similar but with the unity ceremony. I wanted us to light our candles and then dim the lights as the guest begun to have their candles lit by ours and then have the highest shut off completely when everyone has their candles lit.... it's still something I'm thinking about, but need to find 100 small candles that will fit inside the budget 🙈
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  • FutureStephD
    Super March 2019
    FutureStephD ·
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    Super beautiful!

    Two words of caution:

    First, this will be very challenging for photos. We wanted to do low lights and our photographer talked us out of it (see pic below). Perhaps you can have the lights turn on as you walk down the aisle?

    Second, I don't think this applies, but just in case, be careful of candles down the aisle or people holding them - we had two people 'catch fire' from our candles down the aisle. Everyone was fine, but still, a dress and a suit coat were a little singed. And if you want people to hold candles, you might look into these: https://newville-candles.com/usa/product/celebration-cups-candles-clear/

    I can't wait to see it if you do this! Sounds super romantic.

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  • R
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    First of all, this sounds super cool and unique!

    Since you said you were having trouble finding pictures, here's the vibe I got from what you described. Is this what you were looking for?

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  • Fenja
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    I love the look of it! My only worry would be about incorporating people who do not attend the rehersal. I would definitely think about a way to make this super clear to everyone!

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  • Kaza
    Just Said Yes January 2020
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    I was also a bit fearful of the fire hazard especially since we have kids invited. We were thinking of a combination of fake lights for the walk way and keeping real candles in lanterns or on the altar. If my FH, officiant or I catch fire it will be our own fault. LOL
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  • FutureStephD
    Super March 2019
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    That's exactly what I said!... I was worried about my dad or I knocking them over so our florist pushed them closer to the chairs. Whoops!

    I think the idea is beautiful and I hope it works out!! Just let your photographer and videographer know in case they need anything special for it!

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