Cash bar and cash food???

If I have to pay for my dinner, I'm going to a nice dinner with my FH. NOT someone's wedding.

Cash food is not uncommon in certain places. Usually the guest includes $60-80 when RSVP-ing to help cover the cost of their plate to a wedding. It's not done in the states though

@HisQueen it's done primarily in Montreal, QC and the suburbs surrounding it. I don't think the rest of Canada does this.

I'm with Emily (as usual). Our esteemed neighbor to the north can't be the prototype for this hideous "take your tray and pay the lady at the register" idea. Gross, and painting an entire country with a nuclear sized brush is absurd.

ETA: Usually the guests include $60/$80 with their RSVP to help cover the cost of their plate? OMG...that's laughable. It's far easier to check "declines", and cross out "regretfully".

All my Richard all the time.

I've been to 5 weddings, one had zero alcohol, one was open bar, two were open bar until a certain time, and one was free beer and wine and cash for mixed drinks. So I guess I've seen it all and still haven't seen a "pay for your own food" wedding. Sheesh. TBH, the most fun I've had at a wedding was one where it was open bar until like 10 and then cash... I think by that point we were all drunk enough that we didn't care about paying

I'm in PR where self catered weddings are big for people on budgets or family handles the food, but in our culture for basically any event it is considered rude not to provide food for your guest for free. So it was very weird for everyone who knew about it.

It tacky how can you not feed your guess what kind of cash bar for food I've never heard of that. At this point if you can't afford to pay for your guests food then you just shouldn't have a wedding at all. I've have heard of cash bar but that's also tacky .That's why I'm not having a cash bar at my wedding cuz that's the only thing that they offered

OMG, I cannot even imagine!!

I have a friend from work who is having an unhosted 2 hour gap after their 10 minute ceremony (they got legally married 4 months ago btw). They were originally going to have hosted bar for 2 hours then switch over to cash but thankfully I was able to convince him to keep it open the whole night. The venue is a craft brewery that only serves beer anyway. But I didn't know about the gap until I got my invitation. Hopefully they're not expecting us to pay for our own food...

I didn't see HisQueen's comment but as an Ontario girl born and raised who's been to weddings in BC, Saskatchewan, Québec, and Ontario, I have never seen a) a cash bar; or b) a cash meal.

People in my friends and family would be appalled by both. We are doing a City Hall wedding and restaurant reception and paying for all the booze and food.

@schoolywed2018 if they do, i would run for the hills lol. But if they decided to keep the bar open i doubt it.

You want to hear my worst story? A bride had a "cash walk". Guests were supposed to throw money at her as she walked past. Yep. People actually think this kind of stuff up, and execute it, and wonder why everyone gives them a wide berth.

If you are not paying for food and drink, you don't have guests.

Honestly, I think more people should decline invites that promise this kind of experience.

Future Mrs.C -- I have to ask...how did the couple let everyone know that they were supposed to throw cash at the bride? Was it announced, was there a sign, or was it in a program? I have never heard of such a thing.

I would have said that I didn't bring my wallet. What would they/could they do about it then?? That's rudeness to a whole other level...

LanaKane, this must apply specifically to your own social circle. I highly doubt it's as regional as ALL of Montreal or surrounding suburbs. That is incredibly rude and I would be shocked if it was as widespread as all of Montreal. Many people confuse what is common in their own little social sphere as "regional" when it's simply not the case.

I think the couple should charge an entrance fee as the guests come in.

I would have ordered some Jimmy John's or some pizza and had it delivered there!

Was it a courthouse wedding and then a meal after at a restaurant someplace? becuase cash food is just something i don't understand