Cash bar reality check

Shanita no. It should never be put on the invites what's not being hosted. That's rude. Even ruder is to make your guests pay for drinks at an event that you're supposed to be hosting.

@amanda okay, I understand. But my point was trying to be about how guests feel at cash bars.

@shanita at one point, I probably would have agreed with you. But being a guest at a cash bar sucked. It would probably suck even more at a wedding. I'm all for giving the finger to some etiquette and traditions, also all for saving money. But I would cut else where, and spend the money on liquor. Even if it's just beer and wine

Is there a troll in the dungeon?

Some people apparently don't get it. When you host an event with adults present, and there is alcohol available, they should NOT have to pay for it. No one should have to open their wallets at an event hosted by others. Whether it's a wedding, birthday party, anniversary party, etc, - it does not matter. It's very simple.

That's just amazing Shanita. You are a fabulous host. Unreal.

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Shanita- planning on selling tickets to your wedding or charging at the door? Maybe charge more if they don't bring a gift?

Cash bars are awful.

Yup bil had one. almost 3 years and its the only memory we really have. it is not a good one!

What are thoughts on open bar for cocktail hour only?

I went to a wedding that had open bar for cocktails only. .....I was confused when I went to grt a drink while dancing and had to pay. And annoyed. No.

Laura - no!

Thank you Emily!

Nope dont tease me with an hour of free drinks... if i know ill stock up with 3 drinks before its over

Lol ok, I was just wondering we will most likely be doing beer and wine at least

There was a cash bar at my cousin's quinceanera. There was alcohol there because parties like that (sweet 16 or the Hispanic version for 15) tend to be family affairs on a wedding standard. So I can guess why there was a bar there at all.

There was also a cash bar at another cousin of mine's wedding, and EVERYONE was pissed. Granted, last year I went to a dry wedding and was really disappointed (not to mention highly uncomfortable because social anxiety + obnoxious DJ + didn't know 99% of people there). Cash bar was definitely better than no bar.

I can kinda understand it for a birthday sweet 16.... but never for a wedding

I am not looking for a gift from anyone but on another tip I don't want u to come get drunk off me and my husband and I know u have to drive almost a hour home or 30 minutes .

@shanita bartenders know how to cut off/take people's keys

In the state that I stay in Police officer has to be present and also if anything happen to your guest on the way home they can sue u . The place where I am having my reception they are Monitor the drinks that everyone's drinks . I have spent a lot of money on my wedding it's over 10k

That's too bad Shanita that you can't assume any of your guests will be responsible adults and know their limits. It sounds like renting a shuttle or hotel blocks is out of the question for you?