Cash for honeymoon fund for destination wedding

A bridal brunch or luncheon is fine, but if you don't want physical gifts, a bridal shower would be inappropriate.

I agree with Caytlyn. Also, it's unclear to me from your post if those invited to the potential shower your family wants to plan will be invited to the DW, but aren't likely to be able to attend, or if they won't be invited because it's a small DW guest list? If they aren't invited to the wedding, then I'd add to Caytlyn's response that it's generally poor etiquette to invite people to pre-wedding parties who are not also invited to the wedding. If you decide to do something, I'd agree that a non-gift brunch or lunch are probably your best options. It would also be completely appropriate to just stand firm with your relatives that you do not want a shower or other party and skip the whole thing.

If you don't want physical gifts, just have a bridal lunch or tea and have the invite say "the bride requests no gifts".