Cash Fund

View Quoted Comment I agree with CM. Cutting out the middle man (Zola) makes it now a very direct request for a handout which could be very off-putting to your loved ones (who as Hannah wrote, prob are the most generous givers). You can't get around social and personal views on appropriate gift-giving, esp when you're hoping for generous amounts for a house. In my experience, people with $, give generously and happily. It would turn rotten, if they received "instructions" on how to do it. We don't talk about money as it is. Also, I've only seen QR codes posted at salon reception desks for their individual waxers/ estheticians and maybe once at charity table auctions. You don't want to be seen as service or charity, do you? Really people who give money will give you money. Those without checks can ask you verbally for your Venmo name.

But, wait is yours a smaller wedding of under 20 ppl? Let your loved ones ask you for Venmo if needed.

View Quoted Comment First, everyone who thinks asking for cash are Baby Boomers, and now you’re including easy influenced couples who marry young. LOL. To the contrary, most couples in my circles are getting married later these days.


Again, there’s no reason to register at all. People know how to give money without being told as has been pointed out by multiple PPs.
OP It’s nothing to do with emotional ties, it’s about treating people the right way regardless.

View Quoted Comment You’re right. On another thread OP said the wedding is intimate, just immediate family and a few close friends.


OP, all this makes even less sense. Hopefully you aren’t planning to send the link to extended family/ friends who weren’t invited.

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You're the only one who is speaking in absolutes, friend.

View Quoted Comment And I would think the idea that well established couples do not need to go around begging for money should be obvious.

Everyone, thank you for your inputs. My fiance and I have made our decision and don't require anymore help with this topic. The post was never meant to stir debate among internet strangers, but we have learned our lesson. Thank you for giving your thoughts but this thread is CLOSED.

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Unfortunately, that is not how the internet works. You cannot tell people to stop commenting on things. Putting your Venmo information is even worse, and like PP said it is like you are putting your hand out demanding money. Please do not be rude. Also, if you are only having a 12-person wedding, why do you even need to put that information out there? That makes no sense.

From my honest opinion I don’t think this is rude nor gift grabby at all. While of course everyone’s opinions will differ and especially from older generations that ‘just didn’t do that back then’ kind of thing etc etc (simply because times were different compared to now—-they didn’t have to save up for years and years and years for houses or much else either since the economy was completely different and so was what you required starting out as a young married couple in itself, the American dollar had so much more worth years back compared to now 🤣 which is sad but our true reality that everyone, including grandma, needs to fathom and get on board with)



Of course everyone will ALWAYS unfortunately be hateful and/or judging about something. Especially any huge life event like a wedding or a child being born, all that. Idk why but that’s when peoples true colors are best shown. Good or bad. And also coming from someone that had like no one buy anything off of my wedding NOR baby registry (a couple more bought from the baby rather than wedding registry, but still didn’t get any where near what we required for baby and ended up having to get most everything ourselves for both wedding and baby) the registry in itself can come off as kind of a waste of time. At least for us and our situation. I still recommend making it, because yah never know, each social circle/ family is different and some people (like me who had a wedding not too long ago) may want to know what you guys actually need to start out and will contribute to that. Whether it be a honeymoon, first house/first baby fund, whatever it is. I don’t judge.. ever. Not do I think others should either, everyone has a right to not just make a registry but put what they choose on there. Even if it’s just wants over needs. But I’d say if y’all are needing help with more practical things like a down payment on a house. Heck yes put that as a cash fund on your registry. And you can even do what others suggested on here to have a couple different cash funds like one for honeymoon one for the new house etc. all in all it’s up to you for what you want to do. It’s your wedding, your life, your registry. And the Karen’s will just have to suck it up & get over it 🤣 As far as your actual question about this I didn’t know at all that the site charges a fee for all cash funds. I’m sure it’s still not too hefty but that will be something you guys need to discuss and decide if you want to go thru a website for a cash fund request or not. Or just put something on your invites or word of mouth about the fund instead of using a site for the fund host. Up to you guys on what you think is best for you. I honestly wouldn’t even have any other registry nor items on the Zola site besides the cash fund though, this lets people know what y’all actually need and want and not risk getting things that will just sit around the house collecting dust. I know you said you kept it sweet and simple and still to things y’all need, but it makes it more likely y’all won’t get any contributions to the cash fund. Which can ultimately be used for anything when it comes down to the wire. Again though, all up to you and what you guys think is best for you.
Just don’t listen to those on here about how it comes off ride etc etc. no matter what you do in life, even breathing wrong can set some people off. And if some are bothered by it then they don’t have to contribute. It’s that simple. It also says more about them than you in my opinion. They’re letting this affect them. When again, times have changed and so has how much everything costs.
Those that actually care won’t be offended and will help you in any way you need.
Hope this helps. Best wishes & congrats on your upcoming wedding / marriage 🩵 🥂 🥳