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Dalal
Just Said Yes August 2020

Catholic and Civil Ceremony - Same Day?

Dalal, on November 15, 2019 at 1:18 PM Posted in Wedding Ceremony 0 8

Hi there, my FI and I are both baptized, confirmed Catholics with very Catholic families. Despite this, we have always both dreamed of getting married at this secular chapel on the University of Florida campus. We met and had so many of our firsts at UF, and the chapel overlooks Lake Alice, an important landmark on campus. It is also very beautiful architecturally, and boasts beautiful, large windows, so you feel very close to the surrounding nature. We both really love it there and often went there to meditate or pray during our years in school.


We originally really wanted a catholic priest to marry us in this chapel but I've been doing some research and it seems that is not an option so we are trying to find a compromise. We were wondering if anyone knows if it might be possible to have an intimate religious ceremony with just our immediate family in attendance, followed by a civil ceremony at this chapel with all our friends and family later in the day? It is important to us that our marriage be valid in the eyes of the Catholic church, but it is equally important that our wedding take place at this chapel as it is very meaningful to us both individually and as a couple.

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Latest activity by Andrea, on May 26, 2020 at 4:16 PM
  • Sarah
    Master September 2019
    Sarah ·
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    You can have a ceremony at the chapel, but the priest will have signed your marriage license so you’ll be married (legally and through sacrament) in the Catholic Church.
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  • L
    Lady ·
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    I would speak to your priest or deacon about the situation details, but I think a very small religious ceremony early in the day followed by a civil ceremony including everyone would be a great compromise.


    It would be important to do the religious ceremony first, because otherwise you would have to work out a convalidation with your church, which is not always granted - especially for reasons that are not extenuating circumstances (i.e. you just really like this other chapel)

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  • 2d Bride
    Champion October 2009
    2d Bride ·
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    You should talk to your priest first. It is my understanding that the Catholic church frowns on having more than one ceremony, because it suggests that the other ceremony is equal to the Catholic one in importance.

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    Veronica ·
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    You would probably be able to have a ceremony in the chapel later in the day, but your legal ceremony would have to be the Catholic one earlier in the day.

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  • Laurie
    Dedicated August 2020
    Laurie ·
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    I attended a wedding this past summer that did just that. An intimate Catholic ceremony with family. After that, a ceremony for all the guests on a naval base, which is where the reception was held.
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  • Thalia
    Just Said Yes May 2021
    Thalia ·
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    I’m new here & I am on the same boat. We want to get married through the Catholic Church but have it small intimate wedding with our immediate families. Then have a civil ceremony (A quick one to legalized the marriage) followed by reception with our loved ones. However I’ve been seeing that apparently the priest now can legalize the wedding. I never knew that and I don’t even think my parents know either. I guess I’m just confused and would need to speak to the priest (thanks to COVID-19 it complicated everything). I would be the first from my siblings to marry through the church (my other 2 siblings had civil marriages). But does it really depend because when my parents married (in Mexico), they did the small intimate civil wedding first (not necessarily a ceremony) and then the same day got ready for the Catholic Church ceremony and later reception.
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    Dedicated August 2021
    Jillian ·
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    Does UF have a Catholic chaplain? Most big universities do. I'd recommend contacting them about your dilemma. They may be able to offer some guidance about Catholic weddings on campus.

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    Master October 2022
    Jana ·
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    Talk to the priest and the chaplain at the University to see what your options are.
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