I am currently going through the annulment process, and it has been so
disheartening. I am not Catholic. I was raised Lutheran and am currently in
RCIA to become Catholic. My fiance really wants to be married in the church. If I had
known that a non-catholic needed an annulment, I would have started the
process years ago. We want to get married in the fall so badly and my
witnesses have not even received their papers yet. I filed everything in
October. I was told 12-18 months. I just want to plan our wedding, and I
feel like I am being punished and cant move on with my life and the
wedding plans, even though I was the one sinned against. (My ex cheated
and had serious addiction problems) I am worried that by the time the
annulment goes through (PRAYING IT DOES), all the dates will be booked. I
am just so sad by all of this. The priest told us that we could get
married outside the church and have the marriage blessed after the annulment goes through and have it brought up to a sacrament in the church but my
Fiance is still feeling it isn't right.. Any insight on how long
these are really taking? I am in Michigan and was told they only have
one person working at the Archdiocese on annulments! My other question is how we would handle the guests and how we do the ceremony. People are telling me to should just wear a pretty dress for a private civil ceremony and wait until the anullment is done to wear a wedding dress and invite people, but I feel like I am still getting married for real if we do it outside the church so I want that moment to be special. I want to wear a wedding dress. Here are my options.
1. Get married in a park/gazebo this fall in a private ceremony and wear a wedding dress and then when the annulment goes through have a private blessing of the marriage and then a celebration where we invite people.
2. Get married in a park/gazebo this fall in a private ceremony and wear a
wedding dress and then when the annulment goes through have a regular ceremony in the church and a celebration.
I am just so torn and it seems weird doing 2 ceremonies. All I know is I want to be married this fall and I am just so sad over the annulment process. I feel like planning a wedding should be a joyous time and we cant even really be excited about our engagement right now.
thoughts???? Thank you!