We were married in December, we felt obliged to use my uncle as our celebrant, and after the first meeting with him I knew he wasn't right for us. In the weeks leading up to the wedding I felt sick at the thought of him marrying us, but sacking him would have caused way more drama than I could handle so we pushed ahead.
At that first meeting we asked if he could step aside at the very end so our photographer could get the shot of our first kiss from the opposite angle, so our guests faces were in the shot, instead of the backs of their heads. We didn't have a bridal party so this was really important to us. He immediately yelled "please do not ask me to step aside!", I actually thought he was joking because his reaction was so over the top and made no sense, but as that first meeting went along I realised he was just generally going to be a massive pain in the arse, with all of the ridiculous demands he made of us that were just utter nonsense.
In addition, I changed a lot of the wording of the ceremony as his wording was really negative (he has been married 3 times himself), and he approved it, and confirmed he would be happy to step out of the way.
So he married us, changed all of the wording back to his original wording, talking about the "burdens of marriage", and "tolerance of each other", which is the complete opposite of how we feel about each other.
He also didn't step out of the way, after my husband, myself then the photographer asked him to, she had to physically try to move him, so he completely ruined the shot of our first kiss, and it is very clear in the photos of me during the ceremony that I wasn't happy at all.
I am absolutely devastated and feel completely gutted that he ruined a moment that should have been so special. We put off getting married for almost 10 years because we have been constantly waiting for our family dramas to settle down so we could actually enjoy our wedding day. Which also didn't happen, as my family just couldn't help themselves and managed to systematically ruin almost every aspect of our wedding day, from beginning to end.
So I jokingly said to my husband that we should renew our vows for our first anniversary, he didn't exactly say no? So I'm just wondering how odd this would be, whether anyone knows of anyone who has done something like this because of similar circumstances, or whether it probably won't fix anything at all and I just have to live my life with memories of an awful wedding day forever.
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