Cell Phone Privacy In a Marriage

We have the same passcode. I never pick his phone up though. I have my own. 🤷‍♀️

My fh and I have had both our passcodes since we started dating. I just have it to keep people out of it. My baby sisters know it too. I really have nothing to hide. I'll be worried if I pick up my fh phones and he takes it away from me. That's when I know something is up. If you have nothing to hide, then you dont have to worry. I used to have a friend who would get all freaked out when someone should grab his phone. I told him he must have some really juicy stuff in there lol.

We have each other’s fingerprints on our phones, but we rarely go on each other’s. Unless I’m taking dumb selfies on his phone for him to find later 😂

View Quoted Comment Same for my husband and I.

View Quoted Comment That's understandable.

View Quoted Comment It's similar for my husband and I.

View Quoted Comment I think it's sweet that you have the same passcode. I might have to steal that idea.

View Quoted Comment I completely agree, if there is nothing to hide then it's no big deal.

View Quoted Comment 😂🤣😂 that sounds hilarious.

View Quoted Comment Yes as long as their is trust and never given each other a reason to doubt the other there is no worries. And it’s not about “snooping” there’s just no reason for me to be on his phone when I can do it on mine. But if we both wanted we can just grab each other’s phone like it’s no big deal

We are totally open to sharing pass codes on our personal phones believing that couples who are committed to or will be committing to each other share everything. However, we both have confidentiality issues for our jobs so the work phone codes stay private. Now that being said we both respect each other's need for space and privacy. I rarely pick up his phone and he rarely picks up mine. It's more like "Hey babe your phone is ringing, you want me to pick it up?" if I am next to his phone and his is in another room somewhere and vice-versa.

I know FH’s password but I doubt he remembers mine, though I’ve told him several times. I’d prefer us each to have it in case of emergencies-I don’t have his parents’ phone numbers in my phone so how would I call them in an emergency?

View Quoted Comment Some people want their spouses passcodes simply for the purposes of snooping. I don't need to do that with my husband. We trust one another.

View Quoted Comment What are your jobs?

View Quoted Comment You bring up a good question.

Like others have stated, I think knowing passcodes is mainly a thing that’s good for emergency or security reasons, such as something happening to your partner and you needing to be able to access information on their phone to help, or for the sake of convenience, such as your partner needing to hand you their phone to do something on it while they’re driving. I trust my fiance, so I never take advantage of knowing his passcode to check his social media, texts, or otherwise invade his privacy, and he doesn’t do the same to me. There’s no space for privacy invasions in a healthy relationship.

Eh shouldn’t be a big deal to share the passcode if no ones hiding anything in my opinion. Would be a red flag to me if my fiancé didn’t want me to have it. I unfortunately know more than one friend who caught their spouse cheating via text messages ...

You shouldn't want it for snooping reasons.
But overall we know each other's passwords just incase, I was in the hospital for a week a year ago and nobody would have known my managers number to notify my job if he didn't have access to my phone. I would have been fired after day three of no show. So to me there's a reason to share even if you're just in a long term or serious relationship.
We really only use each other's phones infrequently and we're in each other's presence or ask before doing it.
Everything else is preference.

We don’t share passcodes. In 11 years together, we’ve never felt a need to. I trust him and he trusts me completely.

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Thanks for sharing your perspective.