Ceremony for show

What would the purpose of this be?

Are you doing a vow renewal? Is there a reason you would want to do a fake ceremony?

I've never heard of this. What would be the point?

I did this once in 1st grade. Wonder how Jimmy is doing these days.

That would a lot of money spent for a show... and no marriage at the end of it. Why would someone do this?

No, as I wanted to be honest with my guests and get actually married, not pretend married.

No I haven’t heard of this. What would be the point? Are you already married?

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This is the only thing I could think of, a renewal

We want to show everyone we are committed to each other. But certain circumstances financially would make it harder actually legally being married. We are just unsure yet which way to go.

Very confused by this post...

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Ok, so then you can call that a commitment ceremony, which is perfectly acceptable. Calling it a wedding ceremony is not being honest with your guests, but I see no reason why you can't have a commitment ceremony to show your loved ones that you're in it for the long haul. I know a few gay couples that had commitment ceremonies before same-sex marriage was legalized.

View Quoted Comment Are you planning to hide the fact that you're not legally getting married from your guests? Also FYI most officiants will not perform this, so I could only imagine having a friend/family member perform a fake ceremony. Lastly this comes off gift grabby, IMO. You don't need to put on a show to be committed to each other.

A commitment ceremony sounds nice. How is it different from a regular ceremony?

View Quoted Comment You don’t have to be married to be committed to each other. To play at being married is kind of an insult to those who fought for years to be legally, so I’d skip the pretend ceremony

View Quoted Comment We are not hiding the fact we won't be legally married if we got that way. And we aren't expecting any gifts, at all. Jim not even having a gift table or anything.

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I suggest doing a little research on what a commitment ceremony script entails. It would be a symbolic ceremony only, not a legal ceremony; there would be no legal binding of you and your partner. I don't know if there are any officiants who perform this, or if you'd have to have a family member or friend run things for you.

https://www.google.com/search?q=commitment+ceremony+script&oq=commitment+ceremony&aqs=chrome.1.69i57j0l5.4271j1j7&sourceid=chrome&ie=UTF-8

Be careful with this. If youre doing this for the purposes of receiving disability or state/government benefits, in some states they will say that the commitment ceremony was “wedding enough” and can pull your benefits.

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It's not pretend if they're honest with their guests about it not being an actual, legal wedding ceremony. People are allowed to celebrate their love with those closest to them.

Ok thank you all

View Quoted Comment Okay, I'm glad you're not hiding it. There's been a lot of people in the past who have posted about hiding whether or not they're married which is why you're seeing some harsh responses. It does sound like you want a commitment ceremony. I honestly don't understand the concept except for those who did them before gay marriage was legal. But it's obviously your decision. I'd probably keep it pretty intimate and small.