Ceremony only wedding.

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Bella Wilfer and John Harmon, dedicately middle class, took Mr. Wilfer to a restaurant after their wedding. ("Our Mutual Friend"--and I'm not going through the collected works, book by book.) I think all sorts of people had meals; the novels are full of them, as are Austen's, fifty years earlier. As are depictions of the Renaissance. And there's the Last Supper--a meal served to the working class (mostly working class) disciples.

My grandmother made the refreshments for my mother's 1940 wedding.

I think you tend to overgeneralize. And I have read Miss Manners.

And, regardless of history, it is now (and has been throughout my long lifetime) assumed that if you invite someone to an event you will feed them. That's part of the definition of "hosting."

Omg I am doing a ceremony only wedding too!! Only with 50 ppl and the package that I have was with Appetizers and some alcoholic drinks included. My ceremony will be at noon so people may not be expecting a full meal but I still told most people invited on how the ceremony is going to go. Maybe after we can go to a bar and keep celebrating. Fiancé and I chose to have ceremony only because is what we could afford, so we don’t have to be asking for money and if people wants to gifts us so be it but we are not expecting anything. We are very introvert people and we just want to have a good time with family and some friends without the pressure of being broke after. Regardless of what you choose, it’s your weeding and ultimately your decision. Good luck! 😊