We are having a Saturday wedding and I am super conflicted on which start time to pick. The church ceremony options are 2 pm or 7:30 pm. It will be a plated dinner with lots of very good food, open bar and the plan was for it to be black tie optional. Black tie is very fitting for the venue and my ceremony attire will be white tie.
Probably about 30-40% of the guests will be flying in and one of my major concerns with the 2 pm ceremony is that they wouldn't be guaranteed check-in prior to the ceremony. Another is making the bridal party get up very early to start getting ready in conjunction with a late evening reception. If I had a 2 pm ceremony I would have food/display stations immediately following the ceremony at a venue, which is a little less than 15 minutes away. Cocktail hour would follow at say 5:30 pm. I would really hate to have a gap, create an inconvenience for out-of-town guests and attire confusion with an afternoon wedding and a black-tie-optional reception.
If we select the 7:30 pm ceremony then we have the dilemma of serving dinner too late. I would cut back cocktail hour to 30 minutes with a 8:45 pm cocktail hour start time and leave display stations out throughout the hour. People would walk into the reception room (next door) at 9:15 pm with dinner served by 9:30pm. The cocktail hour would have lots of food, but is this too late? Would a 9:15 pm dinner be significantly better? Is a 9:30 pm dinner worse than the inconveniences of a 2 pm ceremony?