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Apryl
Savvy May 2020

Changed my mind...want to elope, but Save the Dates have been sent :(

Apryl, on December 2, 2019 at 10:21 PM Posted in Planning 0 12
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Sooo my original plan was to elope, but I got caught up in the engagement hype and decided to plan an elaborate intimate wedding.
Well, now (after recently sending out save the dates) I’m regretting not sticking with the original plan, due to the budget constantly increasing. We are also saving for a house, which I feel should be priority. I’ve realized that intimate doesn’t necessarily mean cheaper.

So I need advice. How do I tastefully let our families know that we’ve changed our minds 🥴?

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Latest activity by Apryl, on December 3, 2019 at 4:11 PM
  • Amber
    Super September 2020
    Amber ·
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    You could always elope then just have a reception with all ur friends n families.
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  • Brianna
    Dedicated December 2019
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    I think it would be totally fine to elope and then send out announcements. Save the Dates aren’t invites, and if you were going intimidate then the people who got save the dates should be close enough to understand the reasoning.
    If I got word that you eloped with a little note/info saying that when you thought about it more this is really what you wanted? I’d be like “yes, girl! Good for you.”
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  • Cher Horowitz
    Master December 2019
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    If you both want to elope, go for it! Just be honest that you did and let the guests know. Not saying you would keep it a secret! It's just that I've seen so many posts on here about eloping and keeping the marriage a secret from their family - that almost never ends well!

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  • Ingrid
    VIP October 2020
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    Elope and keep the date as a reception date.
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  • Simone
    Dedicated April 2021
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    I recommend you notify all of those you sent a save the date to. I strongly agree with your decision on eloping and saving for the house as a bigger priority.
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  • Kristen
    Master November 2020
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    I agree with what others say. Talk w close family in person or via phone and yes keep the date and have a low key reception.
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  • L
    Lady ·
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    I think you need to notify everyone you sent STD's to that the wedding is no longer happening as planned. You don't need to give an explanation. I would send marriage announcements after the elopement.

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  • Madison
    Dedicated August 2020
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    This! And plan a simple party for that date.

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  • Jennifer
    VIP August 2021
    Jennifer ·
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    Just let them know the plans changed! You could call or send a letter or little announcement that you are eloping instead!

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  • MrsD
    Legend July 2019
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    I think the only way is to call everyone single person you sent a save the date to, and tell them your decision to elope. "Save the Dates" imply a household should not plan anything for that date since they are planning on being invited to your wedding.

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  • Apryl
    Savvy May 2020
    Apryl ·
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    Thank you!! Smiley heart

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  • Apryl
    Savvy May 2020
    Apryl ·
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    Thanks everyone! I appreciate all of the feedback and have decided to go with sending out individual cards to let people know of the change. Smiley shame

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