Hello everyone,
I need thoughts/opinions here. Sorry for the long message-- I feel like there's a lot to explain.
So, I was originally planning a small wedding for about 50 people for this November (2018). It was going to be a church ceremony with a reception at a small, chic bistro for a total cost of about $6,000 from my pocket. My parents were going to pay for the florist and photographer, with the photographer costing $2,300 (florist cost unknown still). However, my parents have suddenly fallen on hard times and aren't going to be able to cover those costs after all. This means I need to take on the costs, which I feel like I could do with some extra hard work and extra high stress (but this would place my total wedding cost out of pocket at about $10,000-$12,000, depending on florist). But with this in mind, plus all the planning and stressing and details stretching out over several months, I'm starting to wonder if it's even worth it? I really look at the growing costs and would much prefer to spend that much money on a trip abroad with my husband, or a down payment on a much-needed car. I just see so much better uses for $10,000 of my money.
I've already sent out the Save the Dates unfortunately, which I now regret- because if not, I would turn around and just do a super-duper intimate, quick ceremony and then a trip abroad with my now-fiancee, soon-to-be husband instead. Is it tacky to send out a carefully worded letter to guests explaining that circumstances and priorities have changed? Is it too selfish to completely change my mind at this point? Or perhaps just plain rude? With close friends and family, I've made such an excited hullabaloo about all the planning that I'm almost too embarrassed to do a 360. My fiancee is on the fence, but he wants to follow through with what we've said we would do. While I do enjoy planning, it is becoming more stressful and more expensive than I thought (oh naivety!), and I'm more and more convinced we should do something super small and quick and prioritize other things like car, moving, or trip abroad.
Thanks for reading all of that!! Please- your thoughts??