Changing Your Name - Do or Ditch?

I changed my name! I like the idea of having the same last name as my husband and I feel honored to have taken his name. I feel like having the same last name brings unity in your household and makes a lot of things way easier. It wasn't too hard to change my name so it wasn't that big of a deal. I know lots of people are opting to not change their last name, and that's fine too.

Yes I did! But I just added his name to the end of my name and I kept my full name still. So my first name Kendra and then my middle name and my maiden name are both like my middle names now and then his last name is my last name now.

Yes, I’m planning to change my name. Not dropping anything, and not hyphenating, just adding Howells on. I love all my names, but I feel like taking his name is another symbol of our unity.

Yes...can't wait to be his wife!

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This is what I'll be doing to!! Making my maiden name my middle name and taking FH name as my new last name

I keep mine for many reasons.


1. I was born into my family, raised by my family, and will honor them by keeping their last name.
2. I am used to it. My friends are used to it. People I knew from my childhood recognized me from my last name.
3. All my paperwork has my name on it. I moved so many times in my life, 3 continents. All my documents are translated into 3 languages. Changing it just adding a huge headache and will waste money unnecessarily.
4. I don’t want his last name. Mine sounds much better.
5. I don’t get along with his family. I gave it a try for over 20 years. I was beyond patience, and I was very submissive. No more. I lost respect towards them to the core couple years ago. Nothing will fix the relationship. I don’t need them. I am sooooo glad I never wanted to change mt name into theirs. I would be disappointed.

I'll be hyphenating his name so, yes.

Yesss !! It’s show that you respect your husband so yes for me.
I can’t wait to change my last name even tho it’s gonna be complicated since I’m a green card holder and I have to change my documents, passport and my i’d from my country. It’s sooo complicated but I will do it anyway.

I still think but I'd probably changed it. I don't feel connected to my family so it doesn't make a huge difference for me. I don't feel connected to his family either but changing my last name would probably make him happy. Still, idk about all the paperwork, and also I got used to my last name. But changing is probably my way to go.

Doing it. I'm going to hyphenate, but his surname will be first. Can't wait to be Mrs Rhodes-Walsh.

I will to make my life simple, I'll be Mrs. De La Cruz, I'll miss my last name. On the plus side I'll have to redesign my signature

I changed my name! Don't regret it- but it was definitely something to get used to. I loved my maiden name, but I love the additional sense of unity having my married name brings.

I just can't call my myself/hear the name Mrs. McNally without thinking of my MIL!

Yesss I’ll definitely be taking my husband’s last name when we get married. I’m so excited for us to have the same last name!

Ditching the cake, taking his name!!! We decided that for our anniversaries we will indulge in a expensive bottle of whiskey and enjoy it however we please on the night. We didn't have a cake at our wedding due to COVID anyways!

Doing it. I don't believe it was ever a debate for me. He already said I can be part of his family. ☺️

Not looking forward to the paperwork but can't wait to ditch my last name

I'm planning to take my fiancé's name because we both have basic last names, but if I had a more unique last name, I might keep mine or hyphenate.

I'm double-barrelling (but no hyphen).

My husband is Italian and we live in Spain, it's not customary to change your surname in either of those 2 places so my husband didn't expect it of me. If we have kids born and registered birth in Spain they will get both surnames by default. If not, they'd just get his name. I would find it weird to have kids and not share a surname and I also like the idea of having my husband's name; at the same time I wasn't quite ready to let the name I've had for 38 years suddenly not be my name anymore, so this works for me. Also, having "2 last names" makes me fit in more here in Spain!!

Yes, I did change my name !