Charging guests to come to a wedding!

Someone posted about this a week or two ago, an aunt of a friend was selling tickets to her wedding or some craziness.

I absolutely would not pay to come to a wedding, because I'm already paying to go -- gas, time to get ready, a gift, that's money/time I could spend in other ways.

I did have an acquaintance offer to pay to come (so did 2 other brides at that time), which is just as awkward.

OMG! Reminds me of that movie Father of the Bride. I think he suggested that when he freaked out about cost. Wow...

That's probably the dumbest thing I've ever heard. I would imagine many guests RSVP no.

I have a very dear friend that I've known since age 5. When he got married, he and his now ex-wife invited people to their wedding and invitation said that lunch at the reception would be on your own. So yep, I have paid for my own food at a wedding. I hope I'll never have to do anything like that again...

Screaming dumb, but a sure fire way to cut the guest list....

@DonnaBelle, you're a nice lady. I wouldn't have gone and they would get a card that said, "You're responsible for your own wedding gift."

Amazingly rare is the person that I would be willing to pay for myself for, and those rare people are already married and managed to at least give me finger foods. You don't have to be fancy to be classy.

Ugh my mom's friends are getting married in Baltimore on a yacht so it's a really small wedding. They ARE charging people to eat, HOW RIDICULOUS! It's like $60 per person but if you do a hotel room/dinner combo its cheaper.. or something like that.

HOW RUDE (and stupid)! (In a totally Michelle from Full House kind of way!)

Ha ha ha !! Father of the Bride...so funny! Making people pay to go to a wedding is totally ridiculous, I wonder how many people would actually show up!

Lol. i would!!! if i had open spaces and people were bothering me about attending i would say" hmmm.. well you know i think i might be able to squeeze you in.... but its going to co$t you......" hehehehehe! but im mean like that!

I have never heard of such a thing...but different cultures have tons of different traditions we know nothing about!

I don't think I would go unless there were very specific and logical circumstances...

On another note, what about the cash bar idea?

I would not go if someone charged me!

I have no problems with a cash bar, because H and I don't drink. The biggest input on our wedding that I got from him was "No cash bar." He knows his family and he just didn't want to aid that. My father didn't like this, so as a middle ground, we opted to cover brunch cocktails at our brunch reception.

In actuality, I think everyone's drinks went on our tab, not just the few we specified (my fault for not having a formal contract with those drinks in writing), but the tab was less than we expected (think they forgot to charge us for other items) and my parents were fine with paying it, so it worked out.

I think we will do a cash bar, only because we don't want a ton of plastered people at our wedding. Not because we are cheap lol.

Reenski, you're so feisty

And I agree... getting a gift, and most times, a new outfit, and most times, driving out to God-knows-where.... why should I also have to buy tickets to the event of YOUR universe?

I swear, people are so weird...

I would only pay to go if it was someone very close to me. And I probably wouldn’t get them a gift and if I did it would be a small polite one for the gesture. If it was someone I didn’t really know, I probably wouldn’t go.

Like Amy said – I’m even stingy about bars with a cover charge.

I've had someone ask if they can purchase an extra ticket which was ridiculous.

I would never ask someone to pay never, but some people apparently are different... I'm not a big fan of cash bar either. I rather not have alcohol then to ask guests to pay for alcohol, but that's me. I don't think it's a wrong etiquette though to have a cash bar but don't quote me on that

Umm... I'd like one ticket for WTF please... Oh and I'd also like one for Rude. Thank you.

Wow I had a post about someone charging their guests for her wedding. Yes it's super tacky and I would not go. Looks like this is becoming more and more common these days. I would be embarrassed to even consider the thought really.

It shouldn't be more and more common. If I were invited to such a wedding, I would explain to them just how rude what they were doing was, that I was declining to RSVP for their wedding, that they would not be receiving a gift from me, and to strike me from any future guest lists they may put together (like for a baby shower.)

I already know people who are either not getting any kind of baby shower gift from me when the time comes or getting a very cheap gift, due to their laziness on thank you cards. This is just a whole 'nother level.

Woww Reenski you will give it to them straight no chaser!! But I feel you.