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Just Said Yes October 2023

Check bounced to a guest for a hotel room and they are saying to keep it. i don't know what to do.

Christine, on December 11, 2023 at 9:05 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 6
A guest was going to attend my wedding but ended up not being able to. She had already bought a hotel room and it was non-refundable. I was able to find someone to take the hotel room and they paid me for it, therefore I wrote a check to the guest who originally booked the room. Well the check I wrote bounced because I miscalculated funds.. weddings are crazy financially and there was a lot of movement in and out of my account. Anyways, she sent me a nice card explaining that she understands how living on a tight budget is and to keep the 200 as a gift. I don't feel comfortable with this because she lives in a tight budget and I want to send her the money. I don't want to offend her either. Any input on how to word giving her another check? She deserves the money, but I don't want to offend her either. Or do I just accept it?

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Latest activity by Rae, on December 20, 2023 at 11:27 AM
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    Master July 2019
    Hannah ·
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    I would just call her, apologize for the miscalculation amidst all the chaos of the wedding expenses, and ask her if she prefers you send another check or use Venmo/Zelle/CashApp to send the money.
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    Just Said Yes October 2023
    Christine ·
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    I love this. Thank you! I don't have her number but I'm thinking of sending cash in a card? To make it easy?
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  • Michael
    Rockstar October 2023
    Michael ·
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    I suggest it is out of good will that she is giving you that and doing that gift with sympathy. It seems an early wedding gift.

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    CM ·
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    How did the room become yours rather than go back to the hotel? I know why you did it, but would not have put myself in the position to take money from my own guest. Couldn't you just as easily have put the two guests in touch with one another in that case?

    As for the person who canceled, it was certainly not the most gracious way to give you a wedding gift, but I also don't think it would be nice to imply she wasn't sincere or that you don't think she can afford the gift.

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    Master July 2019
    Hannah ·
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    I wouldn’t send cash through the mail because mail goes missing or gets destroyed in transit. If they were a wedding guest, I would presume they have some sort of relationship to you or your spouse, so I would try to get some form of contact information for them, whether it’s a phone number, email address, social media, etc.
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    Rockstar June 2018
    Rae ·
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    Just keep it and send a grateful thank-you note. It's enough back-and-forth.

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