Cheesy to do a choreographed dance?

I think they are played out.

Makes me think of that Portlandia sketch. http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=TNJKv2A5_s8

I think they are kinda over done. Unless you and Fh are like dance instructors and are super freaking good

I think they are great! The best one I've seen is when it was a total surprise, the only ones that knew it was happening was the DJ, photographer and videographer

I think this is a good analogy. It's like being fluent in a language, and listening to someone else butcher it. You smile and nod, but inwardly cringe.

I think if it's something simple, it's fine. But if you're trying to go all out with spins and dips, carrying the bride and all that jazz... Yeah no thanks. Practicing a couples steps and spins is fine or keeping a rhythm but please don't go all out. It's very uncomfortable unless you know what you're doing.

Eh...it really depends on the couple. It works if it's in line with the couple's personalities, they're professional dancers or whatever. It's awkward when it feels like they're trying too hard to put on a show for their guests instead of really enjoying this special moment with each other.

For most aspects of a wedding I prefer genuine and heartfelt over staged and choreographed. But at the end of the day, it's your wedding. Do what you like...just keep it short ;-)

I've only been to one wedding as a guest where this was done, and from a guest point of view, it was awkward to watch, and I wasn't in the minority in my thoughts.

To echo Centerpiece, (who is always spot on) think about would you rather be focused on getting your dance moves "just right"? Or do you want to be in the moment, enjoying every second.

If you are dancers, that's another story. Your guests would "get it" and you would feel confident. Otherwise, I'd skip it.

If it's just you and FH, I think it is fine! When people include the entire bridal party, that's usually when it bleeds into the cheese realm!

I don't see anything wrong with taking a few dance lessons to look better on the dance floor, but I don't think a whole choreographed dance is necessary unless you're REALLY good. FI and I are taking a handful of lessons so we do more than the high school "hold and sway," which I personally find super awkward. But we're basically just learning some true dance steps, not doing a whole choreographed thing. On the other hand, my dad and I are doing a whole choreographed combo dance, but we've been practicing since January and he's a great dancer (easier for females to look good if the male can lead!). There's a certain level of finesse that's necessary to pull of a choreographed dance, IMO.

Ballroom choreography: okay if you can pull it off.

"Fun" choreography: 9 times outta ten looks like you're doing a bad reenactment of High School Musical.

Either way, keep it under 2 minutes and make sure you're having fun. Otherwise it's going to look worse whether you get the steps right or not.

I think it can be cute if executed well. Practice makes perfect!

I think a first song that's choreographed isn't bad, but I've never seen it done, though. Choreographed wedding party dance? Yeah, that's weird.

FH and I are doing a choreographed first dance. However, it is only because we don't want to do the middle school sway.

We are planning on going and having dance lessons closer to our wedding date!

Personally, I would be more entertained watching a choreographed 1st dance over the couple swaying back and forth like you did at a high school dance. I say go for it!

Not a fan. They're awkward. Especially if your dance skills are even just average, it looks forced.

I know it's unpopular opinion it I'm doing one with my whole wedding party. Were all changing into our cowboy boots and doing the watermelon crawl. It's been fun learning it as a group!

I think there's a really fine line when it comes to choreographed dances- if the couple are pro dancers and they incorporate their personas into the dance, or if it's a couple that has taken lessons to work on a simple slow dance, I think that can be really great. I can't help but cringe when I see choreographed "evolution of dance" routines, mash ups with dances like the nae nae one, or re-enactments of Dirty Dancing (seen it. Not a fan). There's a pretty fine line between lovely and cringeworthy

I know some people like them, but I always cringe. Major second-hand embarrassment. I think it's super cheesy.

Just an observation; even with a 'normal' first dance, about half the room is really paying attention.