So, even once before my FH and I were engaged we always agreed that we wanted a child free wedding. Not even my nieces(my sister/MOH’s daughters) are invited to come to the reception, tho they are allowed at the ceremony only because she asked if it’d be okay.
So today my FH’s best man’s wife Facebook messaged me thanking me for a baby gift I had sent them. They had a baby about a week ago. Anyway, she also asked me for my number and texted me right away after I gave it to her asking about where she should book the hotel because she was bringing the baby and wanted to be able to go back to the room.
Now my first annoyance was that they obviously didn’t read the save the date I had sent because it included our website which has all of the details including the hotel we have booked a block of rooms at and also stated that the wedding is childfree. I wasn’t sure if she meant in the text that she’d be bringing a sitter to look after the baby at the hotel or if she meant she would be bringing the baby to the wedding, so I simply directed her to the website figuring she could get both answers there.
When I got home from work I showed the conversation to my fiancé and he decided to reach out to his BM just to make sure and of course he confirms that they want to bring the baby and that they feel the baby is too young to leave at home.
Wht are are we supposed to do?? I’ve told my entire family that their kids are not invited. I have no idea how to solve for this. It’s not okay for them not be be there because my FH has very few family(no siblings and both parents deceased) and this is his closest friend. But having a child there will cause sooo much drama for me and my family. Additionally, I can’t trust that a 4 month old will stay quiet during the ceremony and I would think the reception would be too loud.
Sorry for the rant but I’m freaking out!!!!