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Choosing Bridesmaids

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Amanda, on March 21, 2021 at 3:38 PM

Hi ladies!
Wedding planning is going well so far, but the toughest thing for me has been choosing my bridesmaids. I really need some help here!
So far I have 9 in mind, and they are all from different parts of my life. My MOH will be my closest cousin. I also have 2 other close first cousins, but am planning to choose only 1 as a BM since we have a relationship and I don’t really have a relationship with the other. Is that bad to only include 2 out of the 3 in the wedding party? Also have 2 friends from college and we used to be best friends. They don’t live close to me and I’ve been closer with 1 of them, and the I’ve only seen the other a handful of times. I was thinking to include them both as BMs, since I don’t think I could split them up. Does that look bad if I include both of my college friends over a cousin? Any help/advice is appreciated!

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Katie · on March 30, 2021 at 1:11 PM
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Agree that if you're not close to people now, there's no reason they should be in the bridal party rather than a guest. Despite what people will tell you that the only obligation of the bridal party is to buy the dress and show up, with most brides' expectations these days it ends up being that being a bridesmaid is a lot of work and money. If I weren't super close to a person, I'd probably decline being a bridesmaid and come as a guest. I think guests have more fun personally - they get to wear whatever they want, and all they're responsible for is bringing a gift and having a good time! I think if you're not as close to some people for whatever reason, they will understand why they're guests and not bridal party members and if they support you, they will attend the wedding in the role you've given them.
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